emeraldglass
6'1" Gymmaxed Moroccan Stoic— MOD from Benelux
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Many users and men, in general, criticize women for being perceived as overly emotional and exaggerating their problems. However, in my opinion, this is a significant double standard frequently exhibited by males.
You know, women tend to worry and feel anxiety about things that seem trivial and frivolous to men. Often, it's hard for us to understand that they even mean it, that they're not just creating drama for no reason and being drama queens about things that aren't important, things that don't matter. But we have to understand that what a person finds important and what worries them is all dependent on the context of their life.
A child may be in tears because their toy breaks. Okay, a toy breaking is not important in the overall context of life, but in the context of the child's life, it's very important. A woman may feel overwhelmed by housework, having to sweep, put laundry in the washing machine, or cooking, and she'll actually legit get stressed about these things. Unimportant, but in the context of her life, these are sources of real stress for her.
It's hard for us to understand that. For us, men generally, we worry about worldly matters, our job, paying the bills, all of these things, and in a hierarchy of importance, the things that we're worrying about are more important. So their contexts make their problems seem important to them, while our context makes their problems seem unimportant to us.
But think about it this way. If we had any sense at all as human beings, the only thing that we would ever worry about is eating, sleeping and having a roof above our head and being healthy. In the overall context of reality, that's all that really matters. But we still strive for more. We want luxury and everything our hearts desire. And be honest, I see people on this forum rant daily about every mundane, stupid little problem that they have in their lives. So why only point the finger at women?
In the context of working and struggling in the wordly life, the context of the home and women problems seems very small. And the context of the child seems very small, their toys, you know. But for each person within their context, their problems are real to them. And I think it might help to keep it in perspective when we think about the fact that even the things that we worry about most of the time aren't actually important compared to the things that really matter.
Everyone believes that their problems are the most significant and substantial. As I mentioned in the title, we often perceive our own challenges as the most difficult, convinced that no one has endured more hardship than us. This perception is an illusion, stemming from our individual perspective, where we see ourselves as the central character in our own lives and we lack awareness of others' struggles. So be empathetic and avoid hypocrisy by not singling out women for blame.
You know, women tend to worry and feel anxiety about things that seem trivial and frivolous to men. Often, it's hard for us to understand that they even mean it, that they're not just creating drama for no reason and being drama queens about things that aren't important, things that don't matter. But we have to understand that what a person finds important and what worries them is all dependent on the context of their life.
A child may be in tears because their toy breaks. Okay, a toy breaking is not important in the overall context of life, but in the context of the child's life, it's very important. A woman may feel overwhelmed by housework, having to sweep, put laundry in the washing machine, or cooking, and she'll actually legit get stressed about these things. Unimportant, but in the context of her life, these are sources of real stress for her.
It's hard for us to understand that. For us, men generally, we worry about worldly matters, our job, paying the bills, all of these things, and in a hierarchy of importance, the things that we're worrying about are more important. So their contexts make their problems seem important to them, while our context makes their problems seem unimportant to us.
But think about it this way. If we had any sense at all as human beings, the only thing that we would ever worry about is eating, sleeping and having a roof above our head and being healthy. In the overall context of reality, that's all that really matters. But we still strive for more. We want luxury and everything our hearts desire. And be honest, I see people on this forum rant daily about every mundane, stupid little problem that they have in their lives. So why only point the finger at women?
In the context of working and struggling in the wordly life, the context of the home and women problems seems very small. And the context of the child seems very small, their toys, you know. But for each person within their context, their problems are real to them. And I think it might help to keep it in perspective when we think about the fact that even the things that we worry about most of the time aren't actually important compared to the things that really matter.
Everyone believes that their problems are the most significant and substantial. As I mentioned in the title, we often perceive our own challenges as the most difficult, convinced that no one has endured more hardship than us. This perception is an illusion, stemming from our individual perspective, where we see ourselves as the central character in our own lives and we lack awareness of others' struggles. So be empathetic and avoid hypocrisy by not singling out women for blame.
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