Is escalating too hard on a date before you get to your house a mistake?

[Deleted member 1209]

The minute I’m in a semi private location with a date, I usually go straight for a heavy make out/borderline foreplay, but I hear it’s better to wait until you’re at your house/a viable sex location? I made out with a cute Japanese girl in a karaoke room last night, played with her toys and had her sitting in my lip and now she seems to have gone cold on me

 

[Deleted member 2846]

Save the sex for the house.

 

[ZyzzReincarnate]

itll work if she finds you attractive

 

[Deleted member 1209]

itll work if she finds you attractive

She found me attractive enough for a venue change/kiss but not enough for sex basically

 

[ZyzzReincarnate]

She found me attractive enough for a venue change/kiss but not enough for sex

back to looksmaxxing boyo

 

[Deleted member 1209]

It happened with both of the Japanese girls that I managed to make out with. They knew exactly what I wanted and got psyched out when I invited them over for some tea or to check out the view from my balcony.

I think you have to maintain some kind of plausible deniability if you’re sub chad so that they won’t feel cheap—it must take a lot of guts for a Japanese girl to explicitly agree to meet up with a low inhibition ethnic dude for sex. I didn’t kiss the korean girl I facefucked once before bringing home the same night we met

 

[Deleted member 245]

Only if you're not GL

If she ghosts you for escalating too fast she was never attracted to you.

 

[CupOfCoffee]

You're either
1. too ugly
2. Really unclear with your intentions. Start touching her a bit during conversation to warm her up, if it comes naturally play with her hair etc.

 

[Deleted member 1464]

aspie

 

[Deleted member 1209]

I’m fat as shit to be fair, especially compared to local guys who are all single digit bf on averafe. I still have hope

 

[Deleted member 245]

You're too ugly

 

[Deleted member 1209]

It takes some degree of attraction to repeatedly reciprocate a kiss. most guys wouldn’t have gotten that far. Obviously it’d be easier if I were chad, but i‘d like practical tips relevant to my current situation