About why therapy will never help if you're ugly.

[Deleted member 10699]

Well, this is not a theory, because I'm using a lot of empirical knowledge. Anyways, let's put it this way: imagine that you've been called ugly for years by girls your age or younger, laughed at for no reason, judged harshly by people, etc. You develop social anxiety, a very low confidence, and you begin to think in some really bitter ways.

You go to therapy and explain your issues to your therapist. This is what is going to happen: your therapy will tell you that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (lie that contradicts the negative feedback that you've been receiving during your life), that everyone is unique, that you should not care about it, and that these people should not matter to you. Or even worse, the therapist will try to make you seem that you have BDD and that these comments that you hear behind your back aren't directed to you (even if they're obviously directed at you). No one, not even the therapist, like ugly people, and they just try to make sure that they don't exist. But you know that, when you lack positive feedback, this can't be possible to achieve.

Instead of accepting that you're ugly, or even considering surgeries, therapy is about lying to yourself to, later, receive more shit on your looks (making therapy useless, because your self steem will be in the same position as when you started).

At the end, it's pretty clear that no one wants ugly people. No one will listen to what you've to say, no one will really help you,

 

[Deleted member 7076]

 

[Deleted member 10699]

What's that?

 

[Deleted member 10494]

Well, this is not a theory, because I'm using a lot of empirical knowledge. Anyways, let's put it this way: imagine that you've been called ugly for years by girls your age or younger, laughed at for no reason, judged harshly by people, etc. You develop social anxiety, a very low confidence, and you begin to think in some really bitter ways.

You go to therapy and explain your issues to your therapist. This is what is going to happen: your therapy will tell you that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (lie that contradicts the negative feedback that you've been receiving during your life), that everyone is unique, that you should not care about it, and that these people should not matter to you. Or even worse, the therapist will try to make you seem that you have BDD and that these comments that you hear behind your back aren't directed to you (even if they're obviously directed at you). No one, not even the therapist, like ugly people, and they just try to make sure that they don't exist. But you know that, when you lack positive feedback, this can't be possible to achieve.

Instead of accepting that you're ugly, or even considering surgeries, therapy is about lying to yourself to, later, receive more shit on your looks (making therapy useless, because your self steem will be in the same position as when you started).

At the end, it's pretty clear that no one wants ugly people. No one will listen to what you've to say, no one will really help you,

i don't even know how people can take psychologist seriously, let alone call them """doctors""" jfl psychiatry is aight tho because they give drugs

 

[Deleted member 10699]

i don't even know how people can take psychologist seriously, let alone call them """doctors""" jfl psychiatry is aight tho because they give drugs

I also need to put some effort, but if my environment doesn't change, I'll never change, either.

 

[Deleted member 7725]

i don't even know how people can take psychologist seriously, let alone call them """doctors""" jfl psychiatry is aight tho because they give drugs

A psychologist is on the same level as a PhD of a social science. Just repeating useless shit to get paid.

I really hope my issues were because I was ugly and not mental. After 2 hard maxxes during quaratine, I really hope I'm treated better.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

A psychologist is on the same level as a PhD of a social science. Just repeating useless shit to get paid.

I really hope my issues were because I was ugly and not mental. After 2 hard maxxes during quaratine, I really hope I'm treated better.

What did you get?

 

[Bitch]

 

[BigBoy]

Cope, although we are ugly. Our problems are psychological.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Cope, although we are ugly. Our problems are psychological.

Of course, but you cannot change if your environment is still the same.

 

[Deleted member 8080]

Muscle mogs me a bit unironically

 

[turkproducer]

have you even had a therapist? there are based male therapists,

also unless they are bluepilled trash, they will almost always agree and acknowledge that looks and status or money are important, but rather they focus on changing your perspective and mindset

 

[St. Wristcel]

Incredibly based and amazing post @melkor

 

[Deleted member 10699]

have you even had a therapist? there are based male therapists,

also unless they are bluepilled trash, they will almost always agree and acknowledge that looks and status or monry are important, but rather they focus on changing your perspective and mindset

My therapist wants to do that, she wants me to love myself, to identify my cognitive biases, etc. The problem is that the negative feedback still destroys me. I can't develop a self-steem because society, specially girls, always remind me that I'm unwanted and useless.

 

[KrissKross]

Escorts are honestly better than therapists, at least they address the actual cause

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Escorts are honestly better than therapists, at least they address the actual cause

My cause is not about sex. It's about self-steem and lack of happyness.

 

[Deleted member 11748]

go to a male therapist

 

[Deleted member 10699]

go to a male therapist

I don't want to change my therapist. I'm following her advice. Maybe I'll truly change.

 

[Deleted member 11748]

I don't want to change my therapist. I'm following her advice. Maybe I'll truly change.

you do you bhai

 

[KrissKross]

Tbh foid therapists mog because I could never bring myself to admit my problems to another male.
Imagine the treatment you’d get from a foid therapist if you were chad. She’d probably prescribe you weekly sex sessions with her tbh ded srs

 

[Deleted member 7725]

What did you get?

Rhino + HT.

 

[Merćer]

What your values in life matter bro. If your value is to be well liked by others, but you cant handle simple rejections, too coward to start a small talk, you gonna be damned. Because you based your values in other people and you cannot control what others opinion of you. But on the other hand you base your values on yourself, like you happy being alive and other postive things, not to have a huge social circle or fuck many stacys, expect to be happy. If you cant or dont want that, rope,knife or gun is your salvation.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

What your values in life matter bro. If your value is to be well liked by others, but you cant handle simple rejections, too coward to start a small talk, you gonna be damned. Because you based your values in other people and you cannot control what others opinion of you. But on the other hand you base your values on yourself, like you happy being alive and other postive things, not to have a huge social circle or fuck many stacys, expect to be happy. If you cant or dont want that, rope,knife or gun is your salvation.

Thanks for the awnser.

 

[Looksmax305]

Except the more you go outside the more you realize even ugly dudes get pussy so it’s good to talk to someone that’s NT that can sort out your unfounded belief

 

[Deleted member 3323]

Well, this is not a theory, because I'm using a lot of empirical knowledge. Anyways, let's put it this way: imagine that you've been called ugly for years by girls your age or younger, laughed at for no reason, judged harshly by people, etc. You develop social anxiety, a very low confidence, and you begin to think in some really bitter ways.

You go to therapy and explain your issues to your therapist. This is what is going to happen: your therapy will tell you that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (lie that contradicts the negative feedback that you've been receiving during your life), that everyone is unique, that you should not care about it, and that these people should not matter to you. Or even worse, the therapist will try to make you seem that you have BDD and that these comments that you hear behind your back aren't directed to you (even if they're obviously directed at you). No one, not even the therapist, like ugly people, and they just try to make sure that they don't exist. But you know that, when you lack positive feedback, this can't be possible to achieve.

Instead of accepting that you're ugly, or even considering surgeries, therapy is about lying to yourself to, later, receive more shit on your looks (making therapy useless, because your self steem will be in the same position as when you started).

At the end, it's pretty clear that no one wants ugly people. No one will listen to what you've to say, no one will really help you,

Fuck that shit, your quality of life isn't determined by your looks but by your mental health genetics. I can tell you I knew so many ugly niggas who were treated like shit and got rejected but found a friend group because their genetics said they weren't prone to social anxiety thus being more confident and seeking out experiences. This is also why not every ugly nigga resides on internet forums because they have social lives. It's all about mental health and hormones, that determines life.

 

[CeeJay]

Therapy is trash practiced by cucks who aren't qualified medical professionals. Psychiatry is legit because it's medication.

 

[oatmeal]

therapy helped me with things unrelated to lookism or whatever

lol tbh

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Fuck that shit, your quality of life isn't determined by your looks but by your mental health genetics. I can tell you I knew so many ugly niggas who were treated like shit and got rejected but found a friend group because their genetics said they weren't prone to social anxiety thus being more confident and seeking out experiences. This is also why not every ugly nigga resides on internet forums because they have social lives. It's all about mental health and hormones, that determines life.

I'm prone to have depression, since my mum's family is full of people who have had depression or who have had killed themselves.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Nice song.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

therapy helped me with things unrelated to lookism or whatever

lol tbh

My problems are not that related to lookism.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Except the more you go outside the more you realize even ugly dudes get pussy so it’s good to talk to someone that’s NT that can sort out your unfounded belief

The more I go outside the more anxiety I feel.

 

[TheLastABCcel]

What your values in life matter bro. If your value is to be well liked by others, but you cant handle simple rejections, too coward to start a small talk, you gonna be damned. Because you based your values in other people and you cannot control what others opinion of you. But on the other hand you base your values on yourself, like you happy being alive and other postive things, not to have a huge social circle or fuck many stacys, expect to be happy. If you cant or dont want that, rope,knife or gun is your salvation.

Wanting to be treated like a normal human being and not shit on=wanting to be liked by other people? Ok

 

[Merćer]

Wanting to be treated like a normal human being and not shit on=wanting to be liked by other people? Ok

You gotta accept that others have better card than you. You inbred fuck. If you yearn to get treated right but not willing to put effort nothing will happen. If you try all, but no success then give the respect you want to yourself instead of putting yourself down. Because your pursuing the unachievable.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

You gotta accept that others have better card than you. You inbred fuck. If you yearn to get treated right but not willing to put effort nothing will happen. If you try all, but no success then give the respect you want to yourself instead of putting yourself down. Because your pursuing the unachievable.

I gave up on socializing. I just read in the school breaks because I don't enjoy talking with people.

 

[quakociaptockh]

Therapists are enemies. They don't want to help us. They want to keep you in inceldom.

https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/incel-rehab

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Therapists are enemies. They don't want to help us. They want to keep you in inceldom.

https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/incel-rehab

"I lost my depression and my rage — but I’m still as lonely as ever". At least he lost his depression and rage.

 

[Deleted member 8902]

Even if you are GL therapy still can't help you.

Its bluepill cope

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Even if you are GL therapy still can't help you.

Its bluepill cope

Then, what you're saying, is that the only way to get a self esteem, is to become attractive? If my softmaxxing plan makes to be a HTN (my goal), then, I'd be happy.

 

[grimy]

Well, think about what therapy is. You're seeking help from someone who doesn't know you, love you, or care about your well being in general. It's a job. This site is more therapeutic than a therapist. Why? Because we have something in common and won't bullshit each other.

 

[Deleted member 8902]

Then, what you're saying, is that the only way to get a self esteem, is to become attractive? If my softmaxxing plan makes to be a HTN (my goal), then, I'd be happy.

No, it doesn't stop there you won't feel any better.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Well, think about what therapy is. You're seeking help from someone who doesn't know you, love you, or care about your well being in general. It's a job. This site is more therapeutic than a therapist. Why? Because we have something in common and won't bullshit each other.

Well, people have bullied me here, so I don't know. My goal is becoming more attractive (without surgeries, since I like my features) to get to HTN and to be treated better by people.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

No, it doesn't stop there you won't feel any better.

I will, because all my self esteem problems come from people calling me ugly, so if I groom myself, work out, etc., to be attractive, I won't get that negative feedback.

 

[Deleted member 8902]

I will, because all my self esteem problems come from people calling me ugly, so if I groom myself, work out, etc., to be attractive, I won't get that negative feedback.

Biggest lie ever told, good luck tho

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Biggest lie ever told, good luck tho

What is the biggest lie, that the negative feedback will stop? Well, yes, but it's not gonna be centered around my looks anymore, and that's what I want, since looks are universal.

 

[grimy]

Well, people have bullied me here, so I don't know. My goal is becoming more attractive (without surgeries, since I like my features) to get to HTN and to be treated better by people.

Well yeah there's a lot of retards here but overall I feel a positive, no bullshit/give it to me the way it is vibe from this site. And yes, being more attractive will make everything easier. It's wild to think about, but if you were more attractive, your own relatives would treat you better. We're subconsciously drawn to good looking people.

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Well yeah there's a lot of retards here but overall I feel a positive, no bullshit/give it to me the way it is vibe from this site. And yes, being more attractive will make everything easier. It's wild to think about, but if you were more attractive, your own relatives would treat you better. We're subconsciously drawn to good looking people.

Then, I'll try to softmaxx to HTN, and if I can't, I'll get a surgery.

 

[mogstar]

Incredibly based and amazing post @melkor

Remember that OP is asexual (looks unironcally don’t matter to him), and is clearly mentally ill

 

[mogstar]

Then, I'll try to softmaxx to HTN, and if I can't, I'll get a surgery.

You are fucked in the head just get therapy

 

[mogstar]

https://looksmax.org/threads/for-those-who-say-that-therapy-is-cope.273022/. thread by the same person btw, you are mentally ill get help now

 

[Deleted member 10699]

Remember that OP is asexual (looks unironcally don’t matter to him), and is clearly mentally ill

Well, they matter to the people who surround me, because I'm getting called ugly a lot, so I want to be attractive to make these pieces of shit to shut up.