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Baseline of Self-esteem / Confidence; is already set by the age of 5.
I lack self - esteem, in basis/essence I feel mostly. It kinda adds up what I just read, since that I was mentally and physically abused by my father from age zero to 4 (when parents divorced). Which likely fucks up devolppeing good/decent self esteem. I vaguely remember stuff, and heard from stories from family members and people around whom do remember seeing the bad stuff and treaement he did (to me).
So. Anyone lacking Self-Confidence. Likely 1 or both your parents fucked it up in the first 5 years. But likely to them, the same happened with their parents.
quote, from an article and research/study.:
"By age 5 children have a sense of self-esteem comparable in strength to that of adults, according to a new study by University of Washington researchers.
Because self-esteem tends to remain relatively stable across one’s lifespan, the study suggests that this important personality trait is already in place before children begin kindergarten. "
"Our findings suggest that self-esteem, feeling good or bad about yourself, is fundamental,”
"“Self-esteem appears to play a critical role in how children form various social identities. Our findings underscore the importance of the first five years as a foundation for life,”
Source:
www.sciencedirect.com
To aim to end on a more positive note.
maybe this stuff, can still save some sense of confidence later on:
www.thejakartapost.com
1. Adjust your body language, to a powerfull body language. (body leading the mind, concept)
2. be more forgiving to yourself about your flaws rather than trying to convince yourself that you’re awesome.
3. Avoid negative self-talk
4. At times of panic, turn your anxiety into excitement
5. Exercise regularly
6. Groom/dress yourself to impress (yourself)
7. Smell great
8. Note your weekly successes, however trivial (or otherwise) they may seem
I lack self - esteem, in basis/essence I feel mostly. It kinda adds up what I just read, since that I was mentally and physically abused by my father from age zero to 4 (when parents divorced). Which likely fucks up devolppeing good/decent self esteem. I vaguely remember stuff, and heard from stories from family members and people around whom do remember seeing the bad stuff and treaement he did (to me).
So. Anyone lacking Self-Confidence. Likely 1 or both your parents fucked it up in the first 5 years. But likely to them, the same happened with their parents.
quote, from an article and research/study.:
"By age 5 children have a sense of self-esteem comparable in strength to that of adults, according to a new study by University of Washington researchers.
Because self-esteem tends to remain relatively stable across one’s lifespan, the study suggests that this important personality trait is already in place before children begin kindergarten. "
"Our findings suggest that self-esteem, feeling good or bad about yourself, is fundamental,”
"“Self-esteem appears to play a critical role in how children form various social identities. Our findings underscore the importance of the first five years as a foundation for life,”
Source:
Children’s self-esteem already established by age 5, new study finds
By age 5 children have a sense of self-esteem comparable in strength to that of adults, according to a new study by University of Washington researchers.
www.washington.edu
Implicit measures for preschool children confirm self-esteem's role in maintaining a balanced identity
Self-esteem is one of social psychology's central constructs. Despite the wide endorsement of the importance of self-esteem, there remains substantial…
To aim to end on a more positive note.
maybe this stuff, can still save some sense of confidence later on:
Eight scientifically proven ways to attain self-confidence - Lifestyle - The Jakarta Post
We all, at some point, learn the traits confident people have and how they derive benefits from them, yet we struggle to emulate them. The “fake-it-till-you-make-it” mantra will only get you so far in attaining self-confidence.
1. Adjust your body language, to a powerfull body language. (body leading the mind, concept)
2. be more forgiving to yourself about your flaws rather than trying to convince yourself that you’re awesome.
3. Avoid negative self-talk
4. At times of panic, turn your anxiety into excitement
5. Exercise regularly
6. Groom/dress yourself to impress (yourself)
7. Smell great
8. Note your weekly successes, however trivial (or otherwise) they may seem
