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I’ll be making a full thread once it’s ready. I am currently in the research phase.
I am trying to put together a list of questions that resonate with the people I think I can help. If you could let me know if these questions resonate with you and any additional thoughts that would help the process.
Some of these questions may seem trivial such as “Have you ever purchased or used a self-help book, course or any other product?” but it’s important to remember that “NT” people live very different lives and most have never purchased a self-help book.
I am simply looking for feedback on whether the questions RESONATE with you rather than looking for answers although feel free to answer the questions if you like.
This is still early stage so not all these questions will be equally relevant so please give feedback on which sections you feel are more relevant to you and why, for example I stored a lot of negative emotion in my back but this might be true for everyone.
QUESTIONS
Section 1: Body
Q1. Does your head ever feel disconnected from the rest of your body?
Q2. Do you ever feel tension or stress in your neck or upper body or shoulders?
Q3. Are your shoulders currently as low as they can go or could you lower them?
Q4. Do you struggle to relax?
Q5. Do you have a weak accent from where you’re from relative to other locals?
Q6. Has you hair started to thin all over the top of your head before age 30?
Q7. Do you feel have more energy in the evening compared to the morning?
Q8. Does your back feel sore when you lie into bed at night for the first few minutes?
Q9. What is your resting heart rate?
Q10. Do you ever bump into things or feel more clumsy than the average person?
Q11. Do you think you appear calmer to others than you feel inside?
Q12. Do you ever feel disconnected from your emotions?
Q13. Do you ever feel socially awkward? (Not enough eye contact, strange tonality, unusual body language or tics etc.)
Section 2: Emotions
Q1. When you think of something embarrassing you’ve done or may have done, do you feel a strong negative reaction? (Curse to yourself, make a fist, scrunch up your face)
Q2. Do you ever mutter or think out negative conversations you may need have with others?
Q3. Do you ever feel numb or emotionless?
Q4. Do you ever feel unmotivated?
Q5. Is it important to you to find your purpose in life and pursue it while maybe sacrificing short term happiness or do you prefer to feel good in the moment?
Q6. Do you ever feel your body or mind overreacts to small negative stimuli?
Q7. Do you ever get out of bed and carry on with your day but don’t feel a lot of enthusiasm for the things you are doing?
Q8. Do you ever think that your negative feelings are disproportionate to the event that caused them?
Q9. Is it difficult to think about the last time you were completely happy?
Q10. Do you ever have emotional reactions that suprise you? (Not feeling nervous when thinking about talking to a girl in the bar, not being too sad or even joking around at a funeral)
Section 3: Childhood/Adolescence
Q1. As a child, do you think you were more sensitive than your peers when getting given out to? (external: crying or internal: feeling bad)
Q2. As a child, was your personality relative to other people quieter or louder than you are now?
Q3. When you were a kid, did you express yourself quite differently in school compared to at home?
Q4. We’re you ever bullied as a child?
Q5. Do you think have a strong memory of your adolescence or does it feel more like a blur?
Q6. Looking back on your adolescence, do you have any feelings of regret socially? (Not asking a girl/guy out, not putting yourself out there too much, being shy etc.)
Section 4: Self Beliefs
Q1. Do you feel you cannot fully express yourself?
Q2. Would you consider yourself a thinker or a feeler the majority of the time?
Q3. Have you ever felt that you had a better technical understanding of social dynamics than the average person but weren’t able to put this into practice as smoothly as the average person?
Q4. Do you ever feel like your observing or just existing rather than truly living your life?
Q5. Do you ever think you are more fearless than other people?
Q6. Do you ever feel like you are repeating patterns in your life? 1-3 months super into self-help, then not without much changing
Q7. Do you ever feel that you need to get your shit together because your the age you are and does it worry you to think about?
Q8. Would the people who know you best say you are not part of the life of the party?
Q9. Does the statement “I’m sensitive deeper inside” resonate with you?
Section 5: Sense of Self
Q1. Do you feel you’re an introvert, extrovert or unsure or sometimes feel one and sometimes the other?
Q2. In the past month, have you had the thought “what’s wrong with me?”
Q3. Have you ever taken a personality test such as the MBTI and thought about whether you were answering the questions truthfully or not?
Q4. Do you ever feel unsure of your sense of self? (extrovert or introvert, narcissistic or not, open or not, agreeable or not)
Q5. Do you want to pursue your passion but don’t know exactly what it is or have trouble picking one thing?
Q6. Have you ever felt like you were an observer in your life rather than an active participant?
Section 6: Self-Help
Q1. Have you ever purchased or used a self-help book, course or any other product?
Q2. Do you know who Tony Robbins, Dale Carnegie, Stephen Covey, Eckhart Tolle are?
Q3. Have you meditated more than 5 times in your life?
Q4. Are you interested in psychology?
Q5. Do you know what the myer-briggs MBTI is?
Sections 7: Relationships
Q1. Is a friend a term you use to describe the 1 or 2 closest people you know or do you use it more loosely?
Q2. Was the last conversation you had with a friend mostly a discussion or mostly light hearted banter?
Q3. If you were to act totally naturally, do you feel that you might come across too quiet?
Q4. Do people ever misunderstand your quietness or neutral feeling for negativity or do you feel that they do sometimes?
Q5. Do you ever feel big emotional swings about people close to you like a parent? (Respect, admire, look up to - disrespect, criticise, avoid)
Q6. Do you usually keep your social groups such as school friends, football friends, S/O, family separate or do you freely mix them?
Q7. Have your parents been in the same room as your best friend for more than an hour at an informal gathering?
Q8. Have your school/work friends been in the same room as your siblings for more than an hour at an informal gathering?
Q9. Would the people who know you best say your more “right brained” (creative, funny, emotional) or “left brained” (logical,
Q10. In social groups, do you ever feel that your teasing of others is taken too seriously or people react differently than when other people tease you or others?
Q11. Do you ever feel like your misunderstood more than the average person?
Section 8: Miscellaneous
Q1. On your last vacation did you spend more time sitting by the pool or exploring the surroundings?
Q2. When was the last time if ever you were at a party?
Q3. When was the last time if ever you have hosted a party?
Q4. If you’ve gone to university, did you have a plan for what you wanted to do after and if so did your degree reflect that?
Q5. Have you ever lived abroad for more than 3 months at a time?
Q6. Have you ever gone skydiving or done anything else extreme?
Q7. Would the person who knows you best say you are a morning person or a night owl?
Q8. Have you ever been on top of a building or a bridge and thought about your brain losing control and making your body jump over?
Q9. When you dream, do your dreams usually contain people you know and real life scenarios or are they more fantasy based with monsters or other mystical things?
Section 9: Personality differences
Q1. Without naming it, have you ever been formally diagnosed with AVPD, NPD, BPD, or ASPD?
Q2. Without naming it, have you ever wondered if you had AVPD, ASD, BPD, ASPD?
Q3. Would the person who knows you best day your more or an optimist or a pessimist?
Q4. Would the people who know you best describe you as a sarcastic person?
Q5. Do you ever have feelings of schaden-fraud?
Q6. Have you ever thought about pursuing a career in politics, business or journalism?
Q7. Would the people closest to you say you are more of a disagreeable or agreeable person?
Q8. Without naming it, have you ever had or do you have any strong addictions such as smoking, drinking, drugs, sex, masturbation, overeating?
Q9. If you went to college, on the average day would you be more likely to spend 30 minutes after a lecture socialising or go home?
Q10. Do you ever fantasize about achieving something big or being someone important and if so does it give you a bolt of energy/excitement that you don’t experience through things you do?
Q11. Have you ever thought your personality might fit in better if you lived through a war time period, during tribal times or during a period of high religious adherence?
Section 10: Sexuality Differences
Q1. Without naming it, do you have any non-mainstream sexual fetishes?
Q2. Have you been abstinent from sex in the past month?
Q3. Do you ever feel that you have a lower sex drive or sexual desire than other people?
Q4. We’re you a virgin at 18?
Q5. At what age did you have your first kiss?
Q6. At what age did you have your first boyfriend or girlfriend?
I am trying to put together a list of questions that resonate with the people I think I can help. If you could let me know if these questions resonate with you and any additional thoughts that would help the process.
Some of these questions may seem trivial such as “Have you ever purchased or used a self-help book, course or any other product?” but it’s important to remember that “NT” people live very different lives and most have never purchased a self-help book.
I am simply looking for feedback on whether the questions RESONATE with you rather than looking for answers although feel free to answer the questions if you like.
This is still early stage so not all these questions will be equally relevant so please give feedback on which sections you feel are more relevant to you and why, for example I stored a lot of negative emotion in my back but this might be true for everyone.
QUESTIONS
Section 1: Body
Q1. Does your head ever feel disconnected from the rest of your body?
Q2. Do you ever feel tension or stress in your neck or upper body or shoulders?
Q3. Are your shoulders currently as low as they can go or could you lower them?
Q4. Do you struggle to relax?
Q5. Do you have a weak accent from where you’re from relative to other locals?
Q6. Has you hair started to thin all over the top of your head before age 30?
Q7. Do you feel have more energy in the evening compared to the morning?
Q8. Does your back feel sore when you lie into bed at night for the first few minutes?
Q9. What is your resting heart rate?
Q10. Do you ever bump into things or feel more clumsy than the average person?
Q11. Do you think you appear calmer to others than you feel inside?
Q12. Do you ever feel disconnected from your emotions?
Q13. Do you ever feel socially awkward? (Not enough eye contact, strange tonality, unusual body language or tics etc.)
Section 2: Emotions
Q1. When you think of something embarrassing you’ve done or may have done, do you feel a strong negative reaction? (Curse to yourself, make a fist, scrunch up your face)
Q2. Do you ever mutter or think out negative conversations you may need have with others?
Q3. Do you ever feel numb or emotionless?
Q4. Do you ever feel unmotivated?
Q5. Is it important to you to find your purpose in life and pursue it while maybe sacrificing short term happiness or do you prefer to feel good in the moment?
Q6. Do you ever feel your body or mind overreacts to small negative stimuli?
Q7. Do you ever get out of bed and carry on with your day but don’t feel a lot of enthusiasm for the things you are doing?
Q8. Do you ever think that your negative feelings are disproportionate to the event that caused them?
Q9. Is it difficult to think about the last time you were completely happy?
Q10. Do you ever have emotional reactions that suprise you? (Not feeling nervous when thinking about talking to a girl in the bar, not being too sad or even joking around at a funeral)
Section 3: Childhood/Adolescence
Q1. As a child, do you think you were more sensitive than your peers when getting given out to? (external: crying or internal: feeling bad)
Q2. As a child, was your personality relative to other people quieter or louder than you are now?
Q3. When you were a kid, did you express yourself quite differently in school compared to at home?
Q4. We’re you ever bullied as a child?
Q5. Do you think have a strong memory of your adolescence or does it feel more like a blur?
Q6. Looking back on your adolescence, do you have any feelings of regret socially? (Not asking a girl/guy out, not putting yourself out there too much, being shy etc.)
Section 4: Self Beliefs
Q1. Do you feel you cannot fully express yourself?
Q2. Would you consider yourself a thinker or a feeler the majority of the time?
Q3. Have you ever felt that you had a better technical understanding of social dynamics than the average person but weren’t able to put this into practice as smoothly as the average person?
Q4. Do you ever feel like your observing or just existing rather than truly living your life?
Q5. Do you ever think you are more fearless than other people?
Q6. Do you ever feel like you are repeating patterns in your life? 1-3 months super into self-help, then not without much changing
Q7. Do you ever feel that you need to get your shit together because your the age you are and does it worry you to think about?
Q8. Would the people who know you best say you are not part of the life of the party?
Q9. Does the statement “I’m sensitive deeper inside” resonate with you?
Section 5: Sense of Self
Q1. Do you feel you’re an introvert, extrovert or unsure or sometimes feel one and sometimes the other?
Q2. In the past month, have you had the thought “what’s wrong with me?”
Q3. Have you ever taken a personality test such as the MBTI and thought about whether you were answering the questions truthfully or not?
Q4. Do you ever feel unsure of your sense of self? (extrovert or introvert, narcissistic or not, open or not, agreeable or not)
Q5. Do you want to pursue your passion but don’t know exactly what it is or have trouble picking one thing?
Q6. Have you ever felt like you were an observer in your life rather than an active participant?
Section 6: Self-Help
Q1. Have you ever purchased or used a self-help book, course or any other product?
Q2. Do you know who Tony Robbins, Dale Carnegie, Stephen Covey, Eckhart Tolle are?
Q3. Have you meditated more than 5 times in your life?
Q4. Are you interested in psychology?
Q5. Do you know what the myer-briggs MBTI is?
Sections 7: Relationships
Q1. Is a friend a term you use to describe the 1 or 2 closest people you know or do you use it more loosely?
Q2. Was the last conversation you had with a friend mostly a discussion or mostly light hearted banter?
Q3. If you were to act totally naturally, do you feel that you might come across too quiet?
Q4. Do people ever misunderstand your quietness or neutral feeling for negativity or do you feel that they do sometimes?
Q5. Do you ever feel big emotional swings about people close to you like a parent? (Respect, admire, look up to - disrespect, criticise, avoid)
Q6. Do you usually keep your social groups such as school friends, football friends, S/O, family separate or do you freely mix them?
Q7. Have your parents been in the same room as your best friend for more than an hour at an informal gathering?
Q8. Have your school/work friends been in the same room as your siblings for more than an hour at an informal gathering?
Q9. Would the people who know you best say your more “right brained” (creative, funny, emotional) or “left brained” (logical,
Q10. In social groups, do you ever feel that your teasing of others is taken too seriously or people react differently than when other people tease you or others?
Q11. Do you ever feel like your misunderstood more than the average person?
Section 8: Miscellaneous
Q1. On your last vacation did you spend more time sitting by the pool or exploring the surroundings?
Q2. When was the last time if ever you were at a party?
Q3. When was the last time if ever you have hosted a party?
Q4. If you’ve gone to university, did you have a plan for what you wanted to do after and if so did your degree reflect that?
Q5. Have you ever lived abroad for more than 3 months at a time?
Q6. Have you ever gone skydiving or done anything else extreme?
Q7. Would the person who knows you best say you are a morning person or a night owl?
Q8. Have you ever been on top of a building or a bridge and thought about your brain losing control and making your body jump over?
Q9. When you dream, do your dreams usually contain people you know and real life scenarios or are they more fantasy based with monsters or other mystical things?
Section 9: Personality differences
Q1. Without naming it, have you ever been formally diagnosed with AVPD, NPD, BPD, or ASPD?
Q2. Without naming it, have you ever wondered if you had AVPD, ASD, BPD, ASPD?
Q3. Would the person who knows you best day your more or an optimist or a pessimist?
Q4. Would the people who know you best describe you as a sarcastic person?
Q5. Do you ever have feelings of schaden-fraud?
Q6. Have you ever thought about pursuing a career in politics, business or journalism?
Q7. Would the people closest to you say you are more of a disagreeable or agreeable person?
Q8. Without naming it, have you ever had or do you have any strong addictions such as smoking, drinking, drugs, sex, masturbation, overeating?
Q9. If you went to college, on the average day would you be more likely to spend 30 minutes after a lecture socialising or go home?
Q10. Do you ever fantasize about achieving something big or being someone important and if so does it give you a bolt of energy/excitement that you don’t experience through things you do?
Q11. Have you ever thought your personality might fit in better if you lived through a war time period, during tribal times or during a period of high religious adherence?
Section 10: Sexuality Differences
Q1. Without naming it, do you have any non-mainstream sexual fetishes?
Q2. Have you been abstinent from sex in the past month?
Q3. Do you ever feel that you have a lower sex drive or sexual desire than other people?
Q4. We’re you a virgin at 18?
Q5. At what age did you have your first kiss?
Q6. At what age did you have your first boyfriend or girlfriend?
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