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During the classic "boys vs. girls" discussion in which guys try to make girls admit that they prefer "bad boys", my friends have used me as an example of a good person who doesn't attract women. They have gone even further by insinuating that none of them would ever consider me attractive, despite being average-looking.
I think using me as an example has been inconsiderate and it has certainly made me feel ashamed. However, it reflects well that my friends consider me incapable of attracting a woman.
The girls have told them not to use me as an example. "Poor him", they have said, implying that such comments would hurt my feelings. And I appreciate that they have been considerate in that regard. However, the fact that they haven't said something like "he can be attractive too" or "he'd just have more options if he did 'this' or 'that'" makes it clear that they also think it's difficult for me to be attractive to a woman.
Just to avoid misunderstanding, I want to clarify that I'm not hurt that my female friends don't find me attractive. That doesn't matter to me. We're just friends and I'm fine with that. What has been hurtful has been realizing that, apparently, all of my friends think that I would never be able to attract a woman. And what little self-esteem I've worked so hard to build is teetering right now.
I think using me as an example has been inconsiderate and it has certainly made me feel ashamed. However, it reflects well that my friends consider me incapable of attracting a woman.
The girls have told them not to use me as an example. "Poor him", they have said, implying that such comments would hurt my feelings. And I appreciate that they have been considerate in that regard. However, the fact that they haven't said something like "he can be attractive too" or "he'd just have more options if he did 'this' or 'that'" makes it clear that they also think it's difficult for me to be attractive to a woman.
Just to avoid misunderstanding, I want to clarify that I'm not hurt that my female friends don't find me attractive. That doesn't matter to me. We're just friends and I'm fine with that. What has been hurtful has been realizing that, apparently, all of my friends think that I would never be able to attract a woman. And what little self-esteem I've worked so hard to build is teetering right now.