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Very few people understand what NTmaxxing really is or how to do it here, which is sad because it is probably more important for overall happiness and mental health than looksmaxxing is. I posted this study in a thread yesterday and I feel like it fell on deaf ears without proper explanation so here's my attempt for those who don't already know.
The most prominent model used for personality today is the Big Five model. Just like with everything biological there are gender differences, where women are typically more warm and agreeable, and men are less neurotic.
So looking back at the original study, the most important personality trait for your sexually dimorphic behavior as a man is low neuroticism AKA emotional stability. Also, the most important personality trait for status in general in all genders is extraversion. This is where many guys get it wrong. There is this sector of men who think running highly emotional dark and brooding depression aspie serial killer bipolar Richard Ramirez game with their hair grown out all in their face covering their eyes is going to turn chicks on because they see famous celebrities or TV show characters doing it.
Famous celebrities get bitches IN SPITE of being emotionally autistic, NOT BECAUSE OF IT. For your personality to actually get bitches wet and men to respect you FOR YOU AND NOT YOUR STATUS, you need to be outgoing and socially confident, and able to laugh off any negative thing that can ever happen to you.
So here is how you NTmaxx, 1st through learning the rules, 2nd through training
THE RULES
1. Initiating small talk with a stranger doing absolutely nothing in proximity to you in a public space is always an OPTICAL WIN. Regardless of how the stranger responds, you just gained NT points with immediate society.
2. YOU WILL NEVER LOSE POINTS FOR SPINNING THINGS POSITIVELY. YOU WILL LOSE MAJOR POINTS FOR TAKING THINGS NEGATIVELY. You can do the most fucking embarrassing shit of your entire life AND ACTUALLY TURN IT INTO A WIN if you simply smile/laugh in acknowledgement of it and then keep going.
Examples for #2:
>>>>>>>>>>>>>> a. If you ask a stranger how their day is going and they say "my mom just died", spin it positively and say 'I'm sure she was a great person/she lives on through you/what was she like?' etc.
>>>>>>>>>>>>>> b. If you make a mistake or do something embarrassing in public literally just laugh. Not at yourself but with yourself. I like to look at people around me who may have seen whatever shit I did, make eye contact and start laughing, its like an invitation for them to laugh along if they aren't already.
>>>>>>>>>>>>>> c. If a random person just caught you looking at them, literally just smile and nod or just nod. They are going to break eye contact first I promise.
Essentially, the most important thing to take away is that for your social status, embarrassing things are ONLY embarrassing BASED ON HOW YOU REACT. If you do something that could be seen potentially as embarrassing and then you start acting all shy, scared, afraid, hiding your face, getting red, THEN YOU ARE DISPLAYING NEUORITCISM WHICH IS A FEMALE TRAIT AND AGAINST YOUR GENDER PERFORMANCE.
If you do something that could be potentially seen as embarrassing and then you laugh it off, double down, crack a smile, make a joke about it, do something smooth to recover, etc. THEN YOU ARE DISPLAYING EMOTIONAL STABILITY WHICH IS A MALE TRAIT AND YOU ARE NOW CHAD.
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A big factor in all of this is experience. A lot of people reading this stuff will say 'water' 'cold take' yet still say you cant train NTness meanwhile spending 2-5 years counting calories and adding 2.5lbs to their lifts once a week and somehow not thinking NTmaxxing works the same way. The more people you socialize with and the more public situations you put yourself through, you will find out 2 things eventually:
1. It doesn't matter how good looking or ugly someone is, confidence is way more impressive and completely independent of looks. THERE ARE SO MANY INSECURE GOOD LOOKING PEOPLE. These days I am even starting to think attractive people are more likely to be insecure than normies. Half of the models worshipped on here and social media are literally glass house level fragile and need hourly - minutely - moment to moment social validation and confirmation from everyone around them that they are cool, or they will fucking snap. The more experience you get, the more you will realize there is NO REASON AT ALL to be intimidated by random fucking strangers out in public you will never see again. THE AVERAGE PERSON, INCLUDING YES CHADS AND STACYS, ARE BY DEFAULT INSECURE AND LIVING IN CONSTANT SOCIAL FEAR. My most fucking clingy and needy friends have always been the HTNs, chadlites, chads and stacys. Normies just have this hardened confidence that comes from experience and adversity of having to earn social validation and not getting it served to them on a platter.
2. The more you put yourself out there and brush off every "embarrassing or cringe" thing you do, 2 things will happen. 1, you are going to naturally learn how to be more smooth and charismatic. You will re-encounter situations you went through before and chose a suboptimal decision, and theorycraft new ways around. 2, you are going to become more and more unshakeable, and people around you will literally be in awe of how effortlessly you put yourself in public eye and shake off every setback. This is similar to the feeling you get when you are half-way gymmaxxed and start to get good strength and aesthetic. The out of shape people you know will start to look at you like a fucking superhero when you do a pull-up or take your shirt off. All you did was add 2.5lbs to a bar and lift it 5 times 3 days a week for a year. But the key is time and consistency.
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You can get a good personality just by day to day decisions just like you can get in shape just by eating healthy and walking 10,000 steps a day. But if you want a consistent regimen that will give you accelerated results like lifting would, these are my suggestions:
1. Bartending / Waiting Tables / Customer facing food service jobs: you are going to meet infinite strangers doing this, and you are going to be put in difficult situations, and you will get very obvious feedback (tips, people being friendly or pissed). You also get the added training of meeting and getting along with coworkers.
2. Open Mic night / Karaoke: yet another activity with all the key ingredients - endless supply of strangers, difficult situations, obvious feedback (dead crowd vs cheering and applause) the benefits of this one is usually you can get alcohol involved, and obviously you can do it whenever you want since its not your job.
3. Pick up sports (basketball / indoor soccer / etc): you get the idea. University rec centers are fucking amazing for this. The upside to this option is it verses you more against opposition and shit talking. This is like the hyperbolic time chamber for training emotional stability UNLESS you indulge in being a salty bitch. If you start reinforcing sore loser behavior over time you will HARD NTmin yourself. If you can't do competition without being a sore loser you need to find something else.
3b. Esports events: If you have 0 athleticism or just better at video games than IRL sports in general, you can also do like local tournaments and events and shit. This is why when it comes to gaming, consoles are NTmax and PCs are NTmin. Popular games for this category are sports games and fighting games, also arcade games.
4 - infinity: you decide. The necessary components for a NTmaxxing hobby are as follows:
> Steady supply of strangers
> A skill that you can perform in public that can never be 100% perfected so there is always a chance you fail/mess up
> A good feedback mechanism for your performance (customer complaints, audience reaction, losing/winning a game, etc.)
> Occurs with some kind of regularity, preferable at least weekly so you can get consistent training. Once a year events are not good enough.
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TLDR: live laugh love
The most prominent model used for personality today is the Big Five model. Just like with everything biological there are gender differences, where women are typically more warm and agreeable, and men are less neurotic.
So looking back at the original study, the most important personality trait for your sexually dimorphic behavior as a man is low neuroticism AKA emotional stability. Also, the most important personality trait for status in general in all genders is extraversion. This is where many guys get it wrong. There is this sector of men who think running highly emotional dark and brooding depression aspie serial killer bipolar Richard Ramirez game with their hair grown out all in their face covering their eyes is going to turn chicks on because they see famous celebrities or TV show characters doing it.
Famous celebrities get bitches IN SPITE of being emotionally autistic, NOT BECAUSE OF IT. For your personality to actually get bitches wet and men to respect you FOR YOU AND NOT YOUR STATUS, you need to be outgoing and socially confident, and able to laugh off any negative thing that can ever happen to you.
So here is how you NTmaxx, 1st through learning the rules, 2nd through training
THE RULES
1. Initiating small talk with a stranger doing absolutely nothing in proximity to you in a public space is always an OPTICAL WIN. Regardless of how the stranger responds, you just gained NT points with immediate society.
2. YOU WILL NEVER LOSE POINTS FOR SPINNING THINGS POSITIVELY. YOU WILL LOSE MAJOR POINTS FOR TAKING THINGS NEGATIVELY. You can do the most fucking embarrassing shit of your entire life AND ACTUALLY TURN IT INTO A WIN if you simply smile/laugh in acknowledgement of it and then keep going.
Examples for #2:
>>>>>>>>>>>>>> a. If you ask a stranger how their day is going and they say "my mom just died", spin it positively and say 'I'm sure she was a great person/she lives on through you/what was she like?' etc.
>>>>>>>>>>>>>> b. If you make a mistake or do something embarrassing in public literally just laugh. Not at yourself but with yourself. I like to look at people around me who may have seen whatever shit I did, make eye contact and start laughing, its like an invitation for them to laugh along if they aren't already.
>>>>>>>>>>>>>> c. If a random person just caught you looking at them, literally just smile and nod or just nod. They are going to break eye contact first I promise.
Essentially, the most important thing to take away is that for your social status, embarrassing things are ONLY embarrassing BASED ON HOW YOU REACT. If you do something that could be seen potentially as embarrassing and then you start acting all shy, scared, afraid, hiding your face, getting red, THEN YOU ARE DISPLAYING NEUORITCISM WHICH IS A FEMALE TRAIT AND AGAINST YOUR GENDER PERFORMANCE.
If you do something that could be potentially seen as embarrassing and then you laugh it off, double down, crack a smile, make a joke about it, do something smooth to recover, etc. THEN YOU ARE DISPLAYING EMOTIONAL STABILITY WHICH IS A MALE TRAIT AND YOU ARE NOW CHAD.
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A big factor in all of this is experience. A lot of people reading this stuff will say 'water' 'cold take' yet still say you cant train NTness meanwhile spending 2-5 years counting calories and adding 2.5lbs to their lifts once a week and somehow not thinking NTmaxxing works the same way. The more people you socialize with and the more public situations you put yourself through, you will find out 2 things eventually:
1. It doesn't matter how good looking or ugly someone is, confidence is way more impressive and completely independent of looks. THERE ARE SO MANY INSECURE GOOD LOOKING PEOPLE. These days I am even starting to think attractive people are more likely to be insecure than normies. Half of the models worshipped on here and social media are literally glass house level fragile and need hourly - minutely - moment to moment social validation and confirmation from everyone around them that they are cool, or they will fucking snap. The more experience you get, the more you will realize there is NO REASON AT ALL to be intimidated by random fucking strangers out in public you will never see again. THE AVERAGE PERSON, INCLUDING YES CHADS AND STACYS, ARE BY DEFAULT INSECURE AND LIVING IN CONSTANT SOCIAL FEAR. My most fucking clingy and needy friends have always been the HTNs, chadlites, chads and stacys. Normies just have this hardened confidence that comes from experience and adversity of having to earn social validation and not getting it served to them on a platter.
2. The more you put yourself out there and brush off every "embarrassing or cringe" thing you do, 2 things will happen. 1, you are going to naturally learn how to be more smooth and charismatic. You will re-encounter situations you went through before and chose a suboptimal decision, and theorycraft new ways around. 2, you are going to become more and more unshakeable, and people around you will literally be in awe of how effortlessly you put yourself in public eye and shake off every setback. This is similar to the feeling you get when you are half-way gymmaxxed and start to get good strength and aesthetic. The out of shape people you know will start to look at you like a fucking superhero when you do a pull-up or take your shirt off. All you did was add 2.5lbs to a bar and lift it 5 times 3 days a week for a year. But the key is time and consistency.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
You can get a good personality just by day to day decisions just like you can get in shape just by eating healthy and walking 10,000 steps a day. But if you want a consistent regimen that will give you accelerated results like lifting would, these are my suggestions:
1. Bartending / Waiting Tables / Customer facing food service jobs: you are going to meet infinite strangers doing this, and you are going to be put in difficult situations, and you will get very obvious feedback (tips, people being friendly or pissed). You also get the added training of meeting and getting along with coworkers.
2. Open Mic night / Karaoke: yet another activity with all the key ingredients - endless supply of strangers, difficult situations, obvious feedback (dead crowd vs cheering and applause) the benefits of this one is usually you can get alcohol involved, and obviously you can do it whenever you want since its not your job.
3. Pick up sports (basketball / indoor soccer / etc): you get the idea. University rec centers are fucking amazing for this. The upside to this option is it verses you more against opposition and shit talking. This is like the hyperbolic time chamber for training emotional stability UNLESS you indulge in being a salty bitch. If you start reinforcing sore loser behavior over time you will HARD NTmin yourself. If you can't do competition without being a sore loser you need to find something else.
3b. Esports events: If you have 0 athleticism or just better at video games than IRL sports in general, you can also do like local tournaments and events and shit. This is why when it comes to gaming, consoles are NTmax and PCs are NTmin. Popular games for this category are sports games and fighting games, also arcade games.
4 - infinity: you decide. The necessary components for a NTmaxxing hobby are as follows:
> Steady supply of strangers
> A skill that you can perform in public that can never be 100% perfected so there is always a chance you fail/mess up
> A good feedback mechanism for your performance (customer complaints, audience reaction, losing/winning a game, etc.)
> Occurs with some kind of regularity, preferable at least weekly so you can get consistent training. Once a year events are not good enough.
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TLDR: live laugh love