Kristin
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Already looksmaxxed and want to get into online dating?
Here are the apps I recommend.
1. Hinge.
2. Bumble.
3. Tinder.
Here are the apps I recommend.
1. Hinge.
This is my favourite app of them all and should definitely be your primary focus. It forces everyone to add 6 photos of themselves + answer 3 different prompts about themselves if they want to create a profile. This means you get a good idea of what they look like and what kind of vibe they have before you even start talking to them. This really helps in filtering out those who might be catfishing you with only 2 photos or those who are boring AF because they don't give out any info about themselves.
Also, the app will also show you people who already liked you for free meaning you can check out their profiles before choosing whether you want to match with them. It also lets you set your location to anywhere you want, again for free, making it awesome for when you're traveling or moving to a new city and you want to get a head start in getting matches before you get there. All the other apps charge you for these features so Hinge gets huge props for this.
Note: when you "like" a profile, Hinge also gives you the option to leave a comment with your like if you wish. I don't do that personally because if the other person doesn't like you back, then it's just a waste of energy. I usually just send the like and wait for them to like me back before using my opener (unless they already liked me first, in which case I add the opener to the comment in my returning like). Sometimes they will actually leave a comment with their like which is a huge IoI and also gives me something else to go off of in my opener. Also, I never sent "roses". They just scream desperation. The only con to this app in my opinion is that they only let you "like" 8 people per day max. This can be quite limiting, especially at the beginning because they tend to show you the hottest people first who probably get dozens, if not hundreds of likes per day which means you just get lost in the crowd for the first 2 weeks of using the app, especially if you live in a big city. You can always pay for the app if you want to get more likes, but I don't like paying for dating apps and I'd rather make up for it by supplementing Hinge with the 2nd app.
Also, the app will also show you people who already liked you for free meaning you can check out their profiles before choosing whether you want to match with them. It also lets you set your location to anywhere you want, again for free, making it awesome for when you're traveling or moving to a new city and you want to get a head start in getting matches before you get there. All the other apps charge you for these features so Hinge gets huge props for this.
Note: when you "like" a profile, Hinge also gives you the option to leave a comment with your like if you wish. I don't do that personally because if the other person doesn't like you back, then it's just a waste of energy. I usually just send the like and wait for them to like me back before using my opener (unless they already liked me first, in which case I add the opener to the comment in my returning like). Sometimes they will actually leave a comment with their like which is a huge IoI and also gives me something else to go off of in my opener. Also, I never sent "roses". They just scream desperation. The only con to this app in my opinion is that they only let you "like" 8 people per day max. This can be quite limiting, especially at the beginning because they tend to show you the hottest people first who probably get dozens, if not hundreds of likes per day which means you just get lost in the crowd for the first 2 weeks of using the app, especially if you live in a big city. You can always pay for the app if you want to get more likes, but I don't like paying for dating apps and I'd rather make up for it by supplementing Hinge with the 2nd app.
2. Bumble.
This is the next best app for one big reason: the girl has to message you first. This is huge when it comes to online dating because it signifies that she is into you, which is key. I know you're probably thinking "wait, if you match her, doesn't that mean she's already into you?". The answer is no. A match only signifies initial interest in you, it doesn't guarantee that she's into you. So by bumble forcing to girl to make the first move, it eliminates any such doubt.
Bumble also gives you a lot more "likes" than Hinge does (like 50 a day I think?) so you'll most likely get a lot more matches/opportunities with it, especially at the beginning. Bumble also has a better overall user experience with regards to conversation since it lets you send more than just text messages (videos, photos, gifs, and voice messages). And if you choose to pay for it, you also get access to other features like being able to see who has already liked you and being able to change your location if you're planning to travel.
Similar to Hinge though, I never pay for bumble either. I also never send "super swipes" as it also comes off as desperate, just like the roses in Hinge. If you want to be able to change your location, there are other ways to do that. I do it by opening it on the laptop version of Chrome and installing the Location Guard extension to fake my location to wherever I'm about to travel to. Works like a charm.
Bumble also gives you a lot more "likes" than Hinge does (like 50 a day I think?) so you'll most likely get a lot more matches/opportunities with it, especially at the beginning. Bumble also has a better overall user experience with regards to conversation since it lets you send more than just text messages (videos, photos, gifs, and voice messages). And if you choose to pay for it, you also get access to other features like being able to see who has already liked you and being able to change your location if you're planning to travel.
Similar to Hinge though, I never pay for bumble either. I also never send "super swipes" as it also comes off as desperate, just like the roses in Hinge. If you want to be able to change your location, there are other ways to do that. I do it by opening it on the laptop version of Chrome and installing the Location Guard extension to fake my location to wherever I'm about to travel to. Works like a charm.
3. Tinder.
Everyone at this point knows about Tinder. It's the OG, the classic, and hard to ignore if you're trying to get into online dating. Right now, I don't use it at all because I'm in a big city and I get enough matches and opportunities using just Hinge and Bumble, but if I were in a smaller city, I would definitely be making use of it more often since it's the most common app out there. Most girls will get Tinder before they get either Hinge or Bumble so it should definitely be in your toolbelt, especially if you struggle at getting matches on those other apps.
That being said, I'm not the biggest fan of Tinder in general. They've really rigged their app to push you into paying for it by making the user experience pretty shitty. For one, they often show you people outside of your filters - people thousands of kms away or people that are older/younger than your filters. This is super annoying as you waste time looking at people's profiles who you will never meet anyway. In addition, there's the fact that the guy messages first 95% of the time, which as I mentioned earlier, doesn't guarantee interest so there's that energy spend that isn't always reciprocated.
Tinder is also more prone to bots, catfishes, scammers, and fake accounts, due to its popularity. The other two apps have less of that, especially Hinge where I don't think I've seen a single fake account. However, like I said earlier, you can't ignore Tinder, especially in smaller cities. If you pay for it, you get the same features that Bumble gives you, but you can also use the same Chrome extension hack I mentioned earlier to change your location if you want. Again, I never pay for Tinder and never send superlikes either.
That being said, I'm not the biggest fan of Tinder in general. They've really rigged their app to push you into paying for it by making the user experience pretty shitty. For one, they often show you people outside of your filters - people thousands of kms away or people that are older/younger than your filters. This is super annoying as you waste time looking at people's profiles who you will never meet anyway. In addition, there's the fact that the guy messages first 95% of the time, which as I mentioned earlier, doesn't guarantee interest so there's that energy spend that isn't always reciprocated.
Tinder is also more prone to bots, catfishes, scammers, and fake accounts, due to its popularity. The other two apps have less of that, especially Hinge where I don't think I've seen a single fake account. However, like I said earlier, you can't ignore Tinder, especially in smaller cities. If you pay for it, you get the same features that Bumble gives you, but you can also use the same Chrome extension hack I mentioned earlier to change your location if you want. Again, I never pay for Tinder and never send superlikes either.
