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Ego is an illusion
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this is a post from braincels, from u/MMDT
Understand, brothers, that when I say "we" I am talking about ALL men. From inceltears to incels to normies to Chad.
Leonardo DiCaprio is just as much a slave as an incel. He is not free. Because his life revolves around women. His moment to moment happiness is based on his need to be validated by women. The only difference between Chad and an Incel is that one gets to satisfy their desires and the other does not. In the grand scheme, the big picture, they are both trapped in the rat race. Satisfying a bodily desire does not lead to fulfilment, it only gives pleasure. The heroin addict who has access to heroin is not living a higher life than the heroin addict who wants it but cannot get it. As long as their existence and wants are like this they both live pathetic lives.
This is not just about sex, this is about our LIFE. Why do men get married? Why do men feel happy to provide for a woman and have her love him? What does she really bring into his life? The true answer is that women are an empty shell, and the man fills her with his own projections of how he wants to feel. He WANTS to know that a woman validates and accepts his existence, and so he projects feelings of wonder onto her. The reality is she does very little for him. She merely consumes the resources and entertainment he provides to her then gives him a thumbs up. This thumbs up fills the man with joy. He is a slave! A slave to his need to be validated. His existence is no higher than that of a dog.
There is a spiritual journey to be had to transcend beyond such folly. You will struggle. The struggle is to let go of your NOTIONS. The notions that have been fed to us all our life.
Men spend their entire lives chasing it. They are pleasured when they get it, and suffering when they dont. They are slaves. This is no way to live. True happiness is to be happy just "to be". But this does not come easy. It takes practice and focus. But as long as you are seeking validation from women you cannot even begin to practice this.
Understand, brothers, that when I say "we" I am talking about ALL men. From inceltears to incels to normies to Chad.
Leonardo DiCaprio is just as much a slave as an incel. He is not free. Because his life revolves around women. His moment to moment happiness is based on his need to be validated by women. The only difference between Chad and an Incel is that one gets to satisfy their desires and the other does not. In the grand scheme, the big picture, they are both trapped in the rat race. Satisfying a bodily desire does not lead to fulfilment, it only gives pleasure. The heroin addict who has access to heroin is not living a higher life than the heroin addict who wants it but cannot get it. As long as their existence and wants are like this they both live pathetic lives.
This is not just about sex, this is about our LIFE. Why do men get married? Why do men feel happy to provide for a woman and have her love him? What does she really bring into his life? The true answer is that women are an empty shell, and the man fills her with his own projections of how he wants to feel. He WANTS to know that a woman validates and accepts his existence, and so he projects feelings of wonder onto her. The reality is she does very little for him. She merely consumes the resources and entertainment he provides to her then gives him a thumbs up. This thumbs up fills the man with joy. He is a slave! A slave to his need to be validated. His existence is no higher than that of a dog.
There is a spiritual journey to be had to transcend beyond such folly. You will struggle. The struggle is to let go of your NOTIONS. The notions that have been fed to us all our life.
Let go of your notion! Be free! As long as we are telling ourselves we need to be validated by women, we will never see otherwise and we will never believe another way is possible. We will be trapped. But another way is possible, I am here to tell you this. The way of no notions is the true path to happinessIf you are committed to one idea of happiness, then you are caught. You may not be happy all your life. You think that if your idea cannot be realized, then happiness will never be possible. That is why a notion is an obstacle. There are many ways to be happy, but you are committed in only one way. That is a loss. A young person may say, “If I can’t marry that person, it’s better to die because happiness cannot be possible without that person.” But you don’t have to die. There are other ways to be happy, but because you are only committed to one idea—that happiness is only possible with this person.
Please understand that this is not "cope". This is reality. To be validated by women is a cope. It's a way to try to fill an empty life. Its cope that gives a little bit of happiness that soons flows away.There are things that are available to us twenty-four hours a day. It depends on us to enjoy them. The fresh air is available to us twenty-four hours a day. The question is whether we have the time and awareness to enjoy it. We cannot blame the fresh air for not being there. We have to look back to see whether we take the opportunity and the time to be aware of the fresh air, and to enjoy it. One of the conditions that helps us be free to enjoy what is there is our mindfulness. If our mindfulness is not there, then nothing will be there. We will not be aware of the beautiful sunshine, the fresh air, the stars, the moon, the people, the animals, and the trees.
Men spend their entire lives chasing it. They are pleasured when they get it, and suffering when they dont. They are slaves. This is no way to live. True happiness is to be happy just "to be". But this does not come easy. It takes practice and focus. But as long as you are seeking validation from women you cannot even begin to practice this.