ranierean
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I posted on here before. But here are the stats stats I'm 26 he is 27 We lived on east coast, Midwest, and now Miami We both are 4th year medical students We dated at age 16 and 17 My previous boyfriends were Asian and white because I'm not attractive to black men. I have a lot if single friends so I can give you female perspective
I recognize that this match up might be more unlikely because my husband did not see me as black when he first saw me. He is not from America so he did not understand racial rules.
But even in the black community, I am not as attractive because I am thin. But I met a lot of Indian and black mixed kids and mist of the time, it was the dad that was Indian.
- Do you find you’re treated differently in public when together?
- Here we go. Not everyone in these groups feel this way.
Black men - very supportive.
Asian women - pity me or a weird type of jealousy. This is most common in AW who date WM
White men - the most disrespectful. I've had some tried to break up my marriage because they felt like I belonged to them I guess. Had one guy who was audibly disgusted when he found out my husband was Asian.
Asian men who predominantly date white women - didn't even know this was an option. They are respectful but I can tell they are attracted to me.
Asian American men - wonder why I would marry a "fob".
Black women - most often think it's cute. But had one wonder if he would understand me.
White women - just surprised I'm educated and had a baby in wedlock.
Everyone else is cool.
- Interesting about AW who dated WM pitied you or were jealous in a weird way. Can you elaborate? Thanks in advance!
- I have an Asian last name, but are surprised that I married an Asian man. But then some turn it into how they never found AM attractive, and I get the brother spiel. Then they rave about Whiteman. IN my mom group, most of the women hype each other when it comes to topics their white husbands or how their kid looks so mixed. Sometimes they can't relate to their slightly racist mother-in-law or how to teach their mixed kid their native tongue and their partner is unhelpful. When I say that I learned my husband's language, or if I ever criticize white men in any capacity, it's mostly hate or crickets. Even if I say I want to be on white people time, they get offended for their white husband and call anyone racist who dislike white culture or food. They did that to a AW from China who didn't want to be close friends with white people because she couldn't relate. My kid looks wasian, and everything is cute until I reveal the actual mix. And it's crickets, or an oh wow. Similar happens when white women post on there.
- Do you find Asian men more (or less) attractive than White, Black and Hispanic men and any specific reasons?
I had to think about this. I think white guys can be attractive, but their attractiveness is often tied to how tall they are. So are black men. First thing people say I met this guy and he is so and so tall. But my husband is 5 10 and I think he is very attractive. He did have a body.
But, my straight awakening was Bruce Lee when I was 4. Culturally, I felt black men can be too sexualised. Like sometimes it's insecurity tied to how well they perform sexualy. With white men, I felt I could possibly be too dominant for them. Also I have this irrational fear that I could walk into the house and having them wear my underwear, or they secretly are racist.
With Asian men, I felt insecurity there once I interacted with some. But, I've dated Koreans before my husband and the level of passion was freaking insane, in both a positive and negative way.
It's not the first time they're shilling AMBF couplings btw
"Just date a sheboon with alopecia bro" - r/AsianMasculinity
What’s up everyone! A lovely friend of mine encouraged me to make a Reddit and post on here lol. We’re both college teens and still getting butterflies 3 years in :) Wanted to represent since black women and Asian men are the most unrepresented duo in relationships… but when we find each other...
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