AlexAP
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Sex-positivity: The view that every sexual behavior that is between consensual adults should be legal, and should not be shamed (lying/cheating is an exception).
This includes: Premarital sex, sex outside of relationships, same-sex people having sex, promiscuity, open relationships/poly, all sorts of sex work (prostitution, porn, Onlyfans, etc.), all preferences (ethnicity, age gaps, body form, etc.), all sexual acts (anal, BDSM, etc.), all ways of meeting between consensual adults (including cold approach, sex tourism, etc.) are okay and should be legal and not shamed.
Sex-negativity: The view that sexual behavior should be strictly regulated by law or social shaming or both.
This definitely includes shaming promiscuity, sex outside of relationships, open relationships/poly and all sorts of sex work. Sometimes it also includes shaming same-sex people having sex, some ways of meeting between consensual adults (like sex tourism) or specific preferences (that are called "fetishes"). What is rare today is shaming premarital sex or specific sexual acts.
This forum seems to be mostly sex-negative. On the one hand users glorify promiscuity in men as the best thing in the world, on the other hand (1) it's clear that this is just a way to signal high status in the male hierarchy, while in reality most say they want a loving girlfriend and don't like meaningless sex, (2) the same users have extreme disgust towards women who are promiscuous. Overall, I think users here are much more sex-negative than the average man today.
I think this shows that most users here are less "masculine" than the average man (or even woman), who today are usually sex-positive. Attitudes that are sex-negative correlate with high levels of neuroticism, anxiety and avoidant attachment style (the last includes being promiscuous while at the same time hating promiscuity, just like many women do, or male users here). This forum was actually the first time I saw promiscuous men feeling bad about being promiscuous, I guess it's the neuroticism.
This includes: Premarital sex, sex outside of relationships, same-sex people having sex, promiscuity, open relationships/poly, all sorts of sex work (prostitution, porn, Onlyfans, etc.), all preferences (ethnicity, age gaps, body form, etc.), all sexual acts (anal, BDSM, etc.), all ways of meeting between consensual adults (including cold approach, sex tourism, etc.) are okay and should be legal and not shamed.
Sex-negativity: The view that sexual behavior should be strictly regulated by law or social shaming or both.
This definitely includes shaming promiscuity, sex outside of relationships, open relationships/poly and all sorts of sex work. Sometimes it also includes shaming same-sex people having sex, some ways of meeting between consensual adults (like sex tourism) or specific preferences (that are called "fetishes"). What is rare today is shaming premarital sex or specific sexual acts.
This forum seems to be mostly sex-negative. On the one hand users glorify promiscuity in men as the best thing in the world, on the other hand (1) it's clear that this is just a way to signal high status in the male hierarchy, while in reality most say they want a loving girlfriend and don't like meaningless sex, (2) the same users have extreme disgust towards women who are promiscuous. Overall, I think users here are much more sex-negative than the average man today.
I think this shows that most users here are less "masculine" than the average man (or even woman), who today are usually sex-positive. Attitudes that are sex-negative correlate with high levels of neuroticism, anxiety and avoidant attachment style (the last includes being promiscuous while at the same time hating promiscuity, just like many women do, or male users here). This forum was actually the first time I saw promiscuous men feeling bad about being promiscuous, I guess it's the neuroticism.