Graham
Certified autist (might bite)
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I'm using my old photos on Bumble, where I'm MTN at 188cm, and pretty much exclusively swipe right on foreign Chinese women (I do swipe right on other foreigners too, but by far the most common in the UK, at least where I am, is Chinese), due to them being far more likely to match back with me. The percentage of match I estimate must be around 50-60%, but for native English women it's probably closer to 1-3%, so to stop my account getting down-ranked I pretty much stick to foreign women.
The most concurrent conversations I've had is 11, and a good chunk of matches don't message resulting in an un-match (Bumble rules). Of the conversations, most (the vast majority) don't go anywhere after the first few messages and usually she ghosts / leaves on read if we made it to Instagram (JBW BTFO).
I hear people say "oh, you passed her looks threshold, its just your Autism / personality holding you back
", but they fail to take into account that the woman you're messaging that finds you "attractive enough" is also going to have DMs from other, much better looking guys with at least somewhat decent personalities (and most likely NT), so it's just logical that she will end up ghosting as she hits it off with a more attractive man.
It's like someone coming up to you and offering you a free phone, they both work, but one is sleeker and faster, you're obviously going to choose the better phone.
There also seems to be this cope that "most men are ugly" on dating apps, so the chances are you're just not being seen because women's feeds are filled with sub-5 guys, but I swiped through guys to see the competition, and within 1-2 minuets I had come across 1 Chad, 1 Chadlite and one HTN (who was foreign). Sure, there were a lot of unattractive guys, but it takes less than a second to swipe past them, and HTN+ are common enough to be found very quickly (much quicker than IRL). This was also done in a somewhat remote part of the UK, not a large city or town.
Your not just getting past her looks threshold and using "game" to attract a woman, you're competing with her other matches, who are most likely HTN+. It's not "muh Autism" fucking you up, it's the more attractive men that come along a day or two after you're hitting it off.
For the shit posters who will post "water":
Yeah, it's meant to be a water thread, but I've been lurking on too many Tinder threads and watched too many "blackpill" videos that act like matches are the end-all and be-all of OLD. I've also seen too many TikTokcels saying it's because of you need "rizz" / act alpha (via text).
Biggest slayer I knew was a .net Autistic Chadlite.
This is not also a "moral judgement" on women's preferences, because I know some of you (and the lurkers) will start screeching misogyny if I just state how it is, despite me not shaming women for going for their best option (I'd do the same too).
@SecularIslamist @Xangsane @pneumocystosis @forevermirin thoughts?
The most concurrent conversations I've had is 11, and a good chunk of matches don't message resulting in an un-match (Bumble rules). Of the conversations, most (the vast majority) don't go anywhere after the first few messages and usually she ghosts / leaves on read if we made it to Instagram (JBW BTFO).
I hear people say "oh, you passed her looks threshold, its just your Autism / personality holding you back
", but they fail to take into account that the woman you're messaging that finds you "attractive enough" is also going to have DMs from other, much better looking guys with at least somewhat decent personalities (and most likely NT), so it's just logical that she will end up ghosting as she hits it off with a more attractive man.It's like someone coming up to you and offering you a free phone, they both work, but one is sleeker and faster, you're obviously going to choose the better phone.
There also seems to be this cope that "most men are ugly" on dating apps, so the chances are you're just not being seen because women's feeds are filled with sub-5 guys, but I swiped through guys to see the competition, and within 1-2 minuets I had come across 1 Chad, 1 Chadlite and one HTN (who was foreign). Sure, there were a lot of unattractive guys, but it takes less than a second to swipe past them, and HTN+ are common enough to be found very quickly (much quicker than IRL). This was also done in a somewhat remote part of the UK, not a large city or town.
Your not just getting past her looks threshold and using "game" to attract a woman, you're competing with her other matches, who are most likely HTN+. It's not "muh Autism" fucking you up, it's the more attractive men that come along a day or two after you're hitting it off.
For the shit posters who will post "water":
Yeah, it's meant to be a water thread, but I've been lurking on too many Tinder threads and watched too many "blackpill" videos that act like matches are the end-all and be-all of OLD. I've also seen too many TikTokcels saying it's because of you need "rizz" / act alpha (via text
).Biggest slayer I knew was a .net Autistic Chadlite.
This is not also a "moral judgement" on women's preferences, because I know some of you (and the lurkers) will start screeching misogyny if I just state how it is, despite me not shaming women for going for their best option (I'd do the same too).
@SecularIslamist @Xangsane @pneumocystosis @forevermirin thoughts?
