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Some time last year my wife approached me about opening our relationship, our sex life had deteriorated a lot over the years and in the end I just stopped pursuing it completely. If I was lucky I'd get sex maybe once a month or so and even then it came with a number of caveats to the point that it felt like a transaction. After months of "I'm too tired" or "not now, I'm not in the mood" I just stopped asking and we went about 8 months without any from of intimacy at all; a kiss on the cheek would be the the absolute limit. My wife worries about her age and the toll 3 kids have taken on her body, but I still find her as beautiful as they day I married it and her body is more than enough to keep me going. Not being able to show her beautiful I find her, as words haven't been enough, has been difficult.
Before the mess of last year started she broached the subject of seeing other people. It wasn't something I wanted to do and I was against it, but she explained that in order to get her confidence back she wanted to be desired by other people. I believe this was prompted by our eldest and she's very much into this new age stuff. As I said, I wasn't happy but I can see when there's no point in arguing and it would be simpler for me to agree. We didn't really set any ground rules, my wife just took my acceptance at face value and carried on.
I don't know whether she's acted on it as I have been rather busy with work in the last year, but I do know that she did spend two nights away from the house. As I wasn't really interested in this in the first place I didn't pursue anyone. In my eyes, I just wanted to wife to realise how beautiful she was so that our sex life would return.
My daughter has a close friend who is frequently coming round and they've been close friends for quite a few years, so much so that we occasionally chat when she'd around the house and it's not that much of a surprise if she's round the house. We've become closer over the past year as she's been spending more time round our house and it is through her that I learnt the open relationship was my daughter's idea.
To stop rambling ahead, one thing lead to another and I have been sleeping with her quite regularly. At first we were just using hotels to keep it out of the house, but the whole 2020 issue has made us use the house and my daughter has caught us on a few times. She made it clear that she saw no issue with it and whilst my wife has never seen us together, she is aware.
She's been quite upset about it and said she wants me to stop, she doesn't want to end our open relationship deal but she doesn't want me to be sleeping with people we know. I'm at a crossroads here, I am quite enjoy this purely physical relationship and I don't want to go back to merely looking forward to a kiss that isn't on my cheek, but at the same point I don't want to cause my wife any grief.
Before the mess of last year started she broached the subject of seeing other people. It wasn't something I wanted to do and I was against it, but she explained that in order to get her confidence back she wanted to be desired by other people. I believe this was prompted by our eldest and she's very much into this new age stuff. As I said, I wasn't happy but I can see when there's no point in arguing and it would be simpler for me to agree. We didn't really set any ground rules, my wife just took my acceptance at face value and carried on.
I don't know whether she's acted on it as I have been rather busy with work in the last year, but I do know that she did spend two nights away from the house. As I wasn't really interested in this in the first place I didn't pursue anyone. In my eyes, I just wanted to wife to realise how beautiful she was so that our sex life would return.
My daughter has a close friend who is frequently coming round and they've been close friends for quite a few years, so much so that we occasionally chat when she'd around the house and it's not that much of a surprise if she's round the house. We've become closer over the past year as she's been spending more time round our house and it is through her that I learnt the open relationship was my daughter's idea.
To stop rambling ahead, one thing lead to another and I have been sleeping with her quite regularly. At first we were just using hotels to keep it out of the house, but the whole 2020 issue has made us use the house and my daughter has caught us on a few times. She made it clear that she saw no issue with it and whilst my wife has never seen us together, she is aware.
She's been quite upset about it and said she wants me to stop, she doesn't want to end our open relationship deal but she doesn't want me to be sleeping with people we know. I'm at a crossroads here, I am quite enjoy this purely physical relationship and I don't want to go back to merely looking forward to a kiss that isn't on my cheek, but at the same point I don't want to cause my wife any grief.