Need help pls. How should I react to mother who wants to talk me out of wanting a gf bc she knows I can't have one? - see what she says in quotes -

[Red Fox]

She denies wanting to talk me out of it but instead says the following are just her opinions:

"Relationships are very overrated. It's never as good as you think."

"There are more important things in life than relationships/having a gf."

"You'll have lots of fights, arguments and problems."

"She'll likely cheat on you especially if she's good-looking."

"You're not the type to marry or have kids."

"Having friends is more important than having a gf." [She wants me to make friends and tells herself I'll be content with friends only.]

"You can be happy alone, our neighbour's daughter [who is about 40, has short her and when she's not at work she's at her parent's house - our neighbours] is happy alone too and doesn't want a bf."

- yet, she completely ignores the negatives of being a loner without a gf.

 

[NewOneXY]

wtf dude this is really sad

My mother tries to arrange marriage me with every relative we have

 

[Red Fox]

wtf dude this is really sad

My mother tries to arrange marriage me with every relative we have

Sad yes but also annoying. When I say, I won't let myself be influenced by you, no matter what, she says "it's just her opinion."
The infuriating thing is that she thinks she can manipulate me, talk me out of wanting something which is NATURAL. Even chatGPT agrees with me.

 

[NewOneXY]

Sad yes but also annoying. When I say, I won't let myself be influenced by you, no matter what, she says "it's just her opinion."
The infuriating thing is that she thinks she can manipulate me, talk me out of wanting something which is NATURAL. Even chatGPT agrees with me.

why is she doing that ?

whats the purpose ?

 

[Red Fox]

why is she doing that ?

whats the purpose ?

SHE says she's just stating her opinion, which I find extremely strange. She knows I want a gf (but I don't have the looks or height, she says neither are a problem), yet WHY IN THE FUCK would she share these opinions with me?

What I think: she knows I can't have one. So she tells herself she means well, as in "he can't feel sad about not having something - a gf - which he doesn't even want." That's basically her goal, I suspect - that I don't want a gf anymore so that I'll focus on other stuff like school and ACCEPT the fact I'll be forever alone.

She randomly told me yesterday (we weren't talking about gf/relationship), I should listen to her more often, she only "means well".

I forgot one: she said a few months ago "having friends is more important than having a gf, that's just my opinion." (I haven't had IRL friends ever since I was 12, now I'm 25).

 

[NewOneXY]

I have no friends either , just my sister and brother in law and i am nearly 31

Thats sad. Are you manlet and ugly face ? No chance to get a girlfriend ?

 

[Red Fox]

I have no friends either , just my sister and brother in law and i am nearly 31

I'm sorry man. Does it bother you? Are you a KHHV?

Thats sad. Are you manlet and ugly face ? No chance to get a girlfriend ?

Yes manlet and I look strange/weird + I can't be funny or interesting IRL, I have a strange voice and never know what to say. Very low chance to get a gf.

 

[Red Fox]

I have no friends either , just my sister and brother in law and i am nearly 31

Thats sad. Are you manlet and ugly face ? No chance to get a girlfriend ?

Am I in the wrong? Does it seem like she's trying to influence my "want" despite her saying she's not trying to influence me?

 

[NewOneXY]

Nah bro , its natural for a man to want a girl. Try to looksmax as much as you can.

Take Roids if needed.

I am escort - / hookermaxxer , i fuck prostitutes

 

[Latinus]

Subscribing to post later.

 

[Red Fox]

Subscribing to post later.

Huh?

 

[Red Fox]

@Krakowski - what’s your opinion?

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

Roids are the only option

One of us.

 

[Red Fox]

Roids are the only option

One of us.

Ok but why laugh at my post? Is she manipulative?

 

[Gaygymmaxx]

Ok but why laugh at my post? Is she manipulative?

No the no friends 12-25 part just got a chuckle out of me

Sorry bro that is brutal, I have like one friend now, best friend just died

Want to dm pics I wanna see if it's really that over

 

[Krakowski]

@Krakowski - what’s your opinion?

I'll respond when I return from the store.

 

[Red Fox]

No the no friends 12-25 part just got a chuckle out of me

Sorry bro that is brutal, I have like one friend now, best friend just died

I’m very sorry man!

Want to dm pics I wanna see if it's really that over

Not quite yet but thanks for the offer. Maybe in a few months.

 

[Latinus]

"Relationships are very overrated. It's never as good as you think."

Even if they are overrated, what's her point? Not experiencing them is a bad sign, not something to brag about.

"There are more important things in life than relationships/having a gf."

That doesn't change the fact that we want to experience them.

"You'll have lots of fights, arguments and problems."

Everything has it's bad sides. Cope.

"She'll likely cheat on you especially if she's good-looking."

Everything is risky, by that logic we shouldn't even leave our home.

"You're not the type to marry or have kids."

Did you mother just called you an incel/unfit?

"Having friends is more important than having a gf." [She wants me to make friends and tells herself I'll be content with friends only.]

The conection you have with a gf is stronger than the ones among even the closest friends. And incels usually don't have friends. Also, if you have a gf your friends will actually respect you more, since incels are not only mocked by women, but also by other men.

"You can be happy alone, our neighbour's daughter [who is about 40, has short her and when she's not at work she's at her parent's house - our neighbours] is happy alone too and doesn't want a bf."

Nobody is happy alone. Humans are social creatures. People that brag about being happy alone are usually incels in denial, or people hard to deal with, so they cope with loneliness.

 

[dakchuh]

Am I in the wrong? Does it seem like she's trying to influence my "want" despite her saying she's not trying to influence me?

yes. she's trying to tell you you're fucked without having to actually say it because it would also imply culpability on herself for birthing an incel, thats why shes trying to steer it into "you dont need a gf" direction

 

[LampPostPrime]

Okay she sounds unintentionally black-pilled

 

[dakchuh]

pretty brutal to be told by your own mom that you're too short/ugly to date tbh. most moms are delusional and think their sons are handsome, or at the very least not ugly unless they're legit deformed

 

[future6psl]

yes. she's trying to tell you you're fucked without having to actually say it because it would also imply culpability on herself for birthing an incel, thats why shes trying to steer it into "you dont need a gf" direction

what this guy said.

 

[Red Fox]

pretty brutal to be told by your own mom that you're too short/ugly to date tbh. most moms are delusional and think their sons are handsome, or at the very least not ugly unless they're legit deformed

Yes exactly. She probably still copes that I’ll be ok with it soon and that she can slowly manipulate me. She keeps on saying « you can’t _____ if you have a gf » . I interrupt her a lot and last time she said « if you have a gf you can’t interrupt her like this »

 

[Red Fox]

Even if they are overrated, what's her point? Not experiencing them is a bad sign, not something to brag about.


That doesn't change the fact that we want to experience them.

Everything has it's bad sides. Cope.


Everything is risky, by that logic we shouldn't even leave our home.


Did you mother just called you an incel/unfit?


The conection you have with a gf is stronger than the ones among even the closest friends. And incels usually don't have friends. Also, if you have a gf your friends will actually respect you more, since incels are not only mocked by women, but also by other men.

Nobody is happy alone. Humans are social creatures. People that brag about being happy alone are usually incels in denial, or people hard to deal with, so they cope with loneliness.

Yup! Some of those replies would have been helpful, I’ll use them when I get the chance.

We have the same psychiatrist she makes me go to. He probably also tells her what to say and what not to say. They’re conspiring. A year ago (I was 24) he told me I should finish all my studies first (still taking 2 years from now on) before getting a gf bc « she’ll take up a lot of time »

She probably still copes that I’ll be ok with it soon and that she can slowly manipulate me. She keeps on saying « you can’t _____ if you have a gf » . I interrupt her sometimes and last time she said « if you have a gf you can’t interrupt her like this » or other examples « you can’t do (this and that) if you have a gf »
(Like have a News the whole time)

 

[Red Fox]

Okay she sounds unintentionally black-pilled

It may be funny to you but to me it’s annoying af

 

[LampPostPrime]

It may be funny to you but to me it’s annoying af

Its better than her being bluepilled

Ask her why you seem like "you should be single"

 

[Red Fox]

Its better than her being bluepilled

Ask her why you seem like "you should be single"

will do, although in the past she said I can get a gf (bluepilled?) and she denied manipulating me. Sounds manipulative to me though

 

[Red Fox]

Yeah it’s very annoying !

 

[Red Fox]

bump

 

[Red Fox]

@RAMU KAKA - ULTRA SOY move, laughing at my post without explaining what's so funny about it!!

 

[RAMU KAKA]

@RAMU KAKA - ULTRA SOY move, laughing at my post without explaining what's so funny about it!!

Laughing at your ultra bluepilled foid mother what else

 

[Red Fox]

Laughing at your ultra bluepilled foid mother what else

BLUEPILLED? You mean BLACKPILLED

Okay she sounds unintentionally black-pilled

 

[RAMU KAKA]

BLUEPILLED? You mean BLACKPILLED

@LampPostPrime tf are you talking about?

 

[alpha_provider]

she wants your cock for herself, clear as a day

 

[Red Fox]

she wants your cock for herself, clear as a day

 

[Red Fox]

@Lonenely sigma - you bipolar?

 

[Lonenely sigma]

@Lonenely sigma - you bipolar?

Nah, the first part kinda made me laugh a bit, but the second one was just sad

 

[chadmanlet04]

"You're not the type to marry or have kids."

rather ironic of her

 

[Red Fox]

"You're not the type to marry or have kids."

rather ironic of her

The ironic thing is - you couldn’t have known that - my dad and her looked good 24 years ago when I was made (Chadlite and stacylite i guess). My sister, 23, is stacylite.
My dad is 1.89m and my mother is 1.65, I should have been 1.82 (as predicted by children’s doctors) but I turned out 1.63 and also very ugly. This all due to a gene mutation during puberty and abnormal hormonal imbalance. Both messed up my face and skull. It looked like I will be ok-height chadlite when I was 11 but then „it“ happened!

 

[Red Fox]

Nah, the first part kinda made me laugh a bit, but the second one was just sad

Yeah today she told me she wants me to have a gf but “In 30 years you’ll look back and agree with me, that relationships really are overrated.” She screamed at me when I said I won’t listen, and she’s kicking me out

Even if they are overrated, what's her point? Not experiencing them is a bad sign, not something to brag about.


That doesn't change the fact that we want to experience them.

Everything has it's bad sides. Cope.


Everything is risky, by that logic we shouldn't even leave our home.


Did you mother just called you an incel/unfit?


The conection you have with a gf is stronger than the ones among even the closest friends. And incels usually don't have friends. Also, if you have a gf your friends will actually respect you more, since incels are not only mocked by women, but also by other men.

Nobody is happy alone. Humans are social creatures. People that brag about being happy alone are usually incels in denial, or people hard to deal with, so they cope with loneliness.

Yeah today she told me she wants me to have a gf but “In 30 years you’ll look back and agree with me, that relationships really are overrated.”

She again repeated in a tone “it’s just my opinion!!! I’m allowed to say, I don’t like red shirts!!! Get that!???!”

I told her but you’re underrating loneliness and she said she “never experienced loneliness.”

She screamed at me when I said I won’t listen to her trying to influence me, and now she’s kicking me out (which will be the end of me)

 

[Joe Rogancel]

wtf dude this is really sad

My mother tries to arrange marriage me with every relative we have

ethnics.

 

[Lonenely sigma]

Yeah today she told me she wants me to have a gf but “In 30 years you’ll look back and agree with me, that relationships really are overrated.” She screamed at me when I said I won’t listen, and she’s kicking me out

Yeah today she told me she wants me to have a gf but “In 30 years you’ll look back and agree with me, that relationships really are overrated.”

She again repeated in a tone “it’s just my opinion!!! I’m allowed to say, I don’t like red shirts!!! Get that!???!”

I told her but you’re underrating loneliness and she said she “never experienced loneliness.”

She screamed at me when I said I won’t listen to her trying to influence me, and now she’s kicking me out (which will be the end of me)

I have an opposite problem.


My mom WON'T accept that I am an incel.


Truth be told, I could theoretically get a looksmatched girl, but since I am a LTN there isn't really a charm in that.


I have to find a way to explain this to her without starting talks about outward gonions and ogee curve

 

[Red Fox]

I have an opposite problem.


My mom WON'T accept that I am an incel.


Truth be told, I could theoretically get a looksmatched girl, but since I am a LTN there isn't really a charm in that.


I have to find a way to explain this to her without starting talks about outward gonions and ogee curve

Both are brutal problems in their own ways tbh. And I get you. I’m a low LTN and I don’t see an appeal in dating my looksmatch. Plus we’ll be made fun of fire sure.

Sometimes she tells me “ofc you can get a gf” but other times she’s this blackpilled. She tells me personality is more important (if she believes this, is another question). As if she’s unsure how to handle me. But overall it seems like she is rather whitepilled (accepting your fate) and blackpilled.

Tell me if I’m out of line though!

 

[Red Fox]

ethnics.

Tell me, what’s funny about my post?

 

[Red Fox]

Today she told me in 30 years I’ll agree with her and say „relationships are overrated“

 

[Red Fox]

FML

 

[Red Fox]

@czwarty - pretty soy move to not explain what’s so funny

 

[Red Fox]

I wonder if she just means this for me but for others she wouldn't think that way

 

[Red Fox]

@Krakowski - I think you are smart, that's why I asked you.

 

[Krakowski]

@Krakowski - what’s your opinion?

What does she say if you tell her you don’t agree and that you really want to experience having a girlfriend? She just answers with the same nonesense?