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This philosophy is essentially a modified version of Stoicism, which I first thought was some autistic cope to repress you emotions, but it isn't about that at all. It is in essence the polar opposite of @Chintuck22 thread about hedonism (https://looksmax.org/threads/pursuing-hedonism-changed-my-life.211474/)'
The idea is that you only pursue to derive happiness from the things that you enjoy doing, just for the sake of doing, expecting nothing else, except for the enjoyment you derive from doing the said activity. This is essentially the opposite of hedonism, which is pursing power, money, social status, etc simply for the idea that if you do manage to achieve this, you will reach a state of "fulfillment", but this just isn't objectively true. When it comes to gaining hedonic related things, humans will never be content, they will always want more. If you get 5 mil net worth, you will want 10 mil, once you hit 10 mil, you will want 20 mil, etc.
You can take that example and apply it for each hedonic related goal, (money, power, social status), and you will be always chasing "more", never reaching a state of contentment. If you do manage to reach the top of the respective hedonic hierarchy you are attempting to climb, you "lose". If that is what you depend on for happiness, once you reach the top, there is nothing more to gain.
Dan Bilzerian is the perfect example of this. He has insane wealth, social status, and women, yet he says he is "numb" to it all, since he has dominated and reached the top of each hierarchy he climbed in his attempt to reach fulfillment, yet now that the ladder he depended onto climbed to derive happiness is no longer viable, he is left empty with no purpose. Do you think Bilzerian wakes up every morning off of a a massive as fuck dopamine rush because he has achieved everything that can be gained in the materialistic sense? Obviously not. (https://looksmax.org/threads/the-hedonic-treadmill-and-the-key-to-living-a-happy-life.147746/ @looxmakser49)
This is why it is crucial to depend on the things that you derive happiness from, just from the activity itsself. These things are always consistent, they don't throw you into a depression when your mission to become a rich statusmaxxed 7 PSL model fails and you remain an autistic broke subhuman. No matter how poor you are, how ugly, how autistic; you can always go listen to some music and play a video game you enjoy or hang out with a friend and get a sense of enjoyment. These things also do not leave you chasing an endless cycle of wanting more, making yourself a slave to the hedonic treadmill
This is not to say that you shouldn't enjoy the hedonicly pleasing events that come your way, such as becoming rich, better looking, more respected etc, enjoy them to their fullest. They just shouldn't be depended on for your primary source of fulfillment, as it is very unstable, and never lasting.
TLDR for the first part: Do the shit you enjoy, it is the only consistent thing you can depend on to bring your happiness, chasing money, power, status will always leave you wanting more, and is very unstable (assuming you don't meet the goals you tell your self you will be happy if you DO meet)
Part Two: Altering your perception to events
While the first part of the thread served to show how you should derive happiness in the first place, this next part will show how to maximize the happy events in your life, while negating the negative events.
First you most realize that there is nothing objectively "Good" or "Bad" in this universe, events are simply events, and nothing more than that.
It is YOU who decide whether an event is good or bad. There is nothing objectively good in the grand scheme of the universe.
While to a large extent you cannot control the events which happen to you, you do have complete control over how you view these events.
Event happens -> You judge the event -> You give a subsequent emotional reaction based on your judgement
While you cannot alter the event, you can alter your judgement, and by altering your judgement, you can alter your emotional reaction (Instead of getting pissed off, responding with "meh it is what it is")
Here are some examples
Lets take my failed MSE for example, remember this isn't an objectively bad event, it is simply an event, and that is all it is, your judgement is what assigns the good or bad to it.
I could either get pissed the fuck off and say, "Man I injected so much bullshit into my mouth and screwed in so many fucking screws, wasted a ton of fucking money, and it still failed" and have it ruin my entire next week.
Or you can respond "Well I did everything within my limits to install it correctly, and there is nothing more that I could of done, it is what it is." and move on with your day, completely unphased.
On one hand you go from getting pissed off and ruining your next week. While on the other hand it doesn't induce any negative emotions.
Notice you can even take this one step further.
"My MSE may of failed, but now my mom is scared shitless and will let me go to a professional, and I can get it done 100%."
I just took an event that could ruin someone's week, to turning it into a positive, the event was the exact same, THE ONLY thing that changed is my judgement to event.
The same exact logic applies to good events, you can take a meh-okay event, and turn it into something better. Appreciate the simple things you have that can bring you happiness (good food, video games, spending time with friends, listening to music, etc) instead of just drifting through them as another event to get to the next day and taking it for granted.
Obviously you can't turn a scenario with 0 objective benefit into something good, such as a mosquito bite.
However you can still control your judgement/emotional response.
You can either get a mosquito bite and get pissed the fuck off saying "HOLY SHIT THIS IS SO FUCKING ANNOYING I CANT STOP FUCKING ITCHING IT"
Or respond with "It is what it is, it will go away within the next few days, nothing I can do about, no point in ruining my mood over something I had no effect over in the first place.
Change the things you cannot change, and accept the things you cannot change
side note: im not saying give up on moneymaxxing, looksmaxxing, etc, actually the opposite, the things that you derive happiness from just for the sake of doing (eating good food, fucking hot girls, playing videogames) you need money and looks to do, it only becomes a problem when you chase money or looks with the hope that once you achieve it, you will finally reach a state of fulfillment
The idea is that you only pursue to derive happiness from the things that you enjoy doing, just for the sake of doing, expecting nothing else, except for the enjoyment you derive from doing the said activity. This is essentially the opposite of hedonism, which is pursing power, money, social status, etc simply for the idea that if you do manage to achieve this, you will reach a state of "fulfillment", but this just isn't objectively true. When it comes to gaining hedonic related things, humans will never be content, they will always want more. If you get 5 mil net worth, you will want 10 mil, once you hit 10 mil, you will want 20 mil, etc.
You can take that example and apply it for each hedonic related goal, (money, power, social status), and you will be always chasing "more", never reaching a state of contentment. If you do manage to reach the top of the respective hedonic hierarchy you are attempting to climb, you "lose". If that is what you depend on for happiness, once you reach the top, there is nothing more to gain.
Dan Bilzerian is the perfect example of this. He has insane wealth, social status, and women, yet he says he is "numb" to it all, since he has dominated and reached the top of each hierarchy he climbed in his attempt to reach fulfillment, yet now that the ladder he depended onto climbed to derive happiness is no longer viable, he is left empty with no purpose. Do you think Bilzerian wakes up every morning off of a a massive as fuck dopamine rush because he has achieved everything that can be gained in the materialistic sense? Obviously not. (https://looksmax.org/threads/the-hedonic-treadmill-and-the-key-to-living-a-happy-life.147746/ @looxmakser49)
This is why it is crucial to depend on the things that you derive happiness from, just from the activity itsself. These things are always consistent, they don't throw you into a depression when your mission to become a rich statusmaxxed 7 PSL model fails and you remain an autistic broke subhuman. No matter how poor you are, how ugly, how autistic; you can always go listen to some music and play a video game you enjoy or hang out with a friend and get a sense of enjoyment. These things also do not leave you chasing an endless cycle of wanting more, making yourself a slave to the hedonic treadmill
This is not to say that you shouldn't enjoy the hedonicly pleasing events that come your way, such as becoming rich, better looking, more respected etc, enjoy them to their fullest. They just shouldn't be depended on for your primary source of fulfillment, as it is very unstable, and never lasting.
TLDR for the first part: Do the shit you enjoy, it is the only consistent thing you can depend on to bring your happiness, chasing money, power, status will always leave you wanting more, and is very unstable (assuming you don't meet the goals you tell your self you will be happy if you DO meet)
Part Two: Altering your perception to events
While the first part of the thread served to show how you should derive happiness in the first place, this next part will show how to maximize the happy events in your life, while negating the negative events.
First you most realize that there is nothing objectively "Good" or "Bad" in this universe, events are simply events, and nothing more than that.
It is YOU who decide whether an event is good or bad. There is nothing objectively good in the grand scheme of the universe.
While to a large extent you cannot control the events which happen to you, you do have complete control over how you view these events.
Event happens -> You judge the event -> You give a subsequent emotional reaction based on your judgement
While you cannot alter the event, you can alter your judgement, and by altering your judgement, you can alter your emotional reaction (Instead of getting pissed off, responding with "meh it is what it is")
Here are some examples
Lets take my failed MSE for example, remember this isn't an objectively bad event, it is simply an event, and that is all it is, your judgement is what assigns the good or bad to it.
I could either get pissed the fuck off and say, "Man I injected so much bullshit into my mouth and screwed in so many fucking screws, wasted a ton of fucking money, and it still failed" and have it ruin my entire next week.
Or you can respond "Well I did everything within my limits to install it correctly, and there is nothing more that I could of done, it is what it is." and move on with your day, completely unphased.
On one hand you go from getting pissed off and ruining your next week. While on the other hand it doesn't induce any negative emotions.
Notice you can even take this one step further.
"My MSE may of failed, but now my mom is scared shitless and will let me go to a professional, and I can get it done 100%."
I just took an event that could ruin someone's week, to turning it into a positive, the event was the exact same, THE ONLY thing that changed is my judgement to event.
The same exact logic applies to good events, you can take a meh-okay event, and turn it into something better. Appreciate the simple things you have that can bring you happiness (good food, video games, spending time with friends, listening to music, etc) instead of just drifting through them as another event to get to the next day and taking it for granted.
Obviously you can't turn a scenario with 0 objective benefit into something good, such as a mosquito bite.
However you can still control your judgement/emotional response.
You can either get a mosquito bite and get pissed the fuck off saying "HOLY SHIT THIS IS SO FUCKING ANNOYING I CANT STOP FUCKING ITCHING IT"
Or respond with "It is what it is, it will go away within the next few days, nothing I can do about, no point in ruining my mood over something I had no effect over in the first place.
Change the things you cannot change, and accept the things you cannot change
side note: im not saying give up on moneymaxxing, looksmaxxing, etc, actually the opposite, the things that you derive happiness from just for the sake of doing (eating good food, fucking hot girls, playing videogames) you need money and looks to do, it only becomes a problem when you chase money or looks with the hope that once you achieve it, you will finally reach a state of fulfillment
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