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THE AFTER PILL
When you think about the different pills they actually represent different stages of the grieving process against former views we had on the way we wanted to see our life with the other gender.
Blue Pill => Denial
Red Pill => Anger
Purple Pill => Bargaining
Black Pill => Depression
After Pill => Acceptance
Based on who you are as an individual you will have preference on how you want to live your life with the other gender.
It is about prioritising what is the most important thing for you:
Is it family?
Is it sex?
Is it genuine desire?
Is it freedom?
….
Life is about tradeoffs, to choose is to renounce. Once you understand the underpinnings of the 4 notions mentioned above, you can make a choice as to which one matters the most to you to feel fine letting go of the others.
Unlike women, we are men, and we accept that we cannot get what we all want.
“I want to be a career woman and be a good mother at the same time”.
You realise it is completely delusional.
It is the same thing with us where:
“I expect genuine desire to last the whole duration of the relationship, until death”
“I expect to have sex like at the start, after having kids and not get bored of it”
“I wanna keep my freedom whilst being in the framework of a relationship”
Do you see how unrealistic that may be. If it is not for you, it surely is for the other person.
Many of our life unhappiness is due to the gap between our expectations and life’s immediate feedback.
We try to fight back, find the blindspots in the argument because we don’t wanna accept the logical conclusion from it.
When you have fully grasped the ramifications of each of these different outcomes, you realise the realities of each one of them, you cannot be frustrated or angry of the outcomes you are not getting:
=> If you want a relationship => know that you will eventually lose genuine desire from the girl if you had it to begin with, or that the lack of genuine desire is why you were chosen for that relationship. Sex can be maintained but will eventually be boring, if not for you, for her. It is however, the best route for having a family, and have a bond beyond sex with someone.
If you want sex => you can still have freedom by having the variety and benefitting from genuine desire in some cases. However, it could end making you feel empty because you don’t develop a close bond to someone or have a family.
If you want genuine desire => you understand it is a fleeting feeling, it represents the honey moon part of the relationship. It is closely intertwined with sex. As with sex if that is what you prefer, what you will be faced against is numerous relationships which started good, but you get bored over time as the routine sets and move on. You will still benefit from variety of short-term flings and freedom.
If you want freedom => don’t have a gf / kids as this will hamper your wallet and your flexibility. You can focus on sex and genuine desire, but your priorities will be the projects you run, and the hobbies you have. Again, you may find yourself empty by not having that close bond with someone or with kids.
So choose your devil and accept what are its underpinnings.
When you think about the different pills they actually represent different stages of the grieving process against former views we had on the way we wanted to see our life with the other gender.
Blue Pill => Denial
Red Pill => Anger
Purple Pill => Bargaining
Black Pill => Depression
After Pill => Acceptance
Based on who you are as an individual you will have preference on how you want to live your life with the other gender.
It is about prioritising what is the most important thing for you:
Is it family?
Is it sex?
Is it genuine desire?
Is it freedom?
….
Life is about tradeoffs, to choose is to renounce. Once you understand the underpinnings of the 4 notions mentioned above, you can make a choice as to which one matters the most to you to feel fine letting go of the others.
Unlike women, we are men, and we accept that we cannot get what we all want.
“I want to be a career woman and be a good mother at the same time”.
You realise it is completely delusional.
It is the same thing with us where:
“I expect genuine desire to last the whole duration of the relationship, until death”
“I expect to have sex like at the start, after having kids and not get bored of it”
“I wanna keep my freedom whilst being in the framework of a relationship”
Do you see how unrealistic that may be. If it is not for you, it surely is for the other person.
Many of our life unhappiness is due to the gap between our expectations and life’s immediate feedback.
We try to fight back, find the blindspots in the argument because we don’t wanna accept the logical conclusion from it.
When you have fully grasped the ramifications of each of these different outcomes, you realise the realities of each one of them, you cannot be frustrated or angry of the outcomes you are not getting:
=> If you want a relationship => know that you will eventually lose genuine desire from the girl if you had it to begin with, or that the lack of genuine desire is why you were chosen for that relationship. Sex can be maintained but will eventually be boring, if not for you, for her. It is however, the best route for having a family, and have a bond beyond sex with someone.
If you want sex => you can still have freedom by having the variety and benefitting from genuine desire in some cases. However, it could end making you feel empty because you don’t develop a close bond to someone or have a family.
If you want genuine desire => you understand it is a fleeting feeling, it represents the honey moon part of the relationship. It is closely intertwined with sex. As with sex if that is what you prefer, what you will be faced against is numerous relationships which started good, but you get bored over time as the routine sets and move on. You will still benefit from variety of short-term flings and freedom.
If you want freedom => don’t have a gf / kids as this will hamper your wallet and your flexibility. You can focus on sex and genuine desire, but your priorities will be the projects you run, and the hobbies you have. Again, you may find yourself empty by not having that close bond with someone or with kids.
So choose your devil and accept what are its underpinnings.
