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I used to be a very friendly & welcoming guy (was always described as a golden retriever) but life got the worst of me lately and I’ve taken it out on people around me in a passive way.
Part of it was realizing despite being super kind & welcoming (great way to make friends) you get treated as a doormat and beta so I slowly just stopped, I started just being more snappier with people and not tolerating BS where before I had zero boundaries
I’m unresponsive, don’t reply back, don’t reach out, give one word responses, don’t make plans, etc, yet none of them get a hint and keep being friendly to me.
Why does being distant and cold make people love you more? Even at the house when there are friends of friends over I just ignore them and don’t even talk yet they keep trying to talk to me.
Part of it was realizing despite being super kind & welcoming (great way to make friends) you get treated as a doormat and beta so I slowly just stopped, I started just being more snappier with people and not tolerating BS where before I had zero boundaries
I’m unresponsive, don’t reply back, don’t reach out, give one word responses, don’t make plans, etc, yet none of them get a hint and keep being friendly to me.
Why does being distant and cold make people love you more? Even at the house when there are friends of friends over I just ignore them and don’t even talk yet they keep trying to talk to me.
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