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After leaving PSL for 3 years, aging from 17 to 20, I've gathered some wisdom and wanted to drop it here. Just hoping my experiences can help some of you avoid the same awkward blunders. I know a lot of you are teens just finding your way, and I reckon these insights could be useful to reaching your peak potential.
First off, I still swear by looks theory, no change there. How good you look acts as a multiplier to how positively people react to your actions. However, my reasons for looksmaxxing have changed, and it has increased my quality of life drastically. To explain this, I’ll tell you my story, and it’s long so I don’t blame you if you don’t read.
Before PSL, I was a socially anxious, unconfident wreck who thought playing video games was life’s ultimate joy. I was also below average in looks. In my first couple dates around this time, I had no success. I’d run out of words, and my conversations were extremely dry. Basically the whole date, I’d feel awkward. Not just with the girls, but with my small circle too. I was generally a pretty boring and quiet person to be around.
At this time, I first discovered PSL and got hooked. I did everything I could within my budget to improve my looks which included mainly; skin, hair, facial leanness, muscles, among other niche things like mewing, ice hooding, eyelid pulling, chewing, ect. I swapped gaming with spending countless hours reading threads, most of which being shitposts just so I could kill time. Looksmax was on my mind the whole day as a result, and I became ultra-aware of how I looked all the time. Countless selfies, daily, were taken. I’d take extreme measures such as dry fasting just to get those coveted hollow cheeks for a few days. And guess what? People started noticing.
Suddenly, both guys and girls I already knew well at school started complimenting my clothes and hair out of the blue. Being so obsessed with how I looked, this boosted my confidence sky-high. I felt ready to try going on dates again. What I noticed was that the same things I said to girls on dates before, had a slightly better reception than before. For example, jokes I made would make them laugh a little harder than before. However, the social anxiety stuck, and that awkward feeling never went away. My voice had no spirit, and I was still boring to talk to in general. At that time, I was so obsessed with looks that my personality wasn’t even in the question as to why I couldn’t get a girlfriend.
Frustrated, I would dry fast even longer, use shoe lifts, and generally take more extreme measures to look slightly better. On the next date, I pre-drank alcohol until I couldn’t feel my face, just so I wouldn’t feel awkward. And it worked like a charm. I was able to talk endlessly and the girl enjoyed my company so much to the point where I was able to land my first kiss. At the time, I thought I’d cracked the code.
On the next date with the same girl, I embraced the alcohol again for another good time. But for whatever reason, the magic fizzled out and I couldn’t get rid of my social awkwardness the same way I did the first time. I was just a plain, unfiltered version of my normal boring self. I couldn’t produce the same fun vibe I did in the last date, and I wasn’t able to make her feel good. Despite looking the exact same, the girl I thought I knew treated me like a distant relative at a family reunion. From having fun the whole date previously, to her looking uninterested the whole time. This shattered my confidence.
It hit me that my personality had a much more significant role in attraction than what I concluded from reading PSL threads. I also began getting sick of rotting my whole day shitposting on PSL. Like it wasn’t even that fun, I just wanted to pass the time the exact same way as I did with gaming. Fed up and feeling like a lost cause, I ditched PSL but kept the valuable looksmaxing advice in the back of my mind.
I gave up on dating all together and started hitting the books to become a doctor/dentist as I liked the idea of the money and job fulfilment that field has. However, where I live you must take an in-person interview to assess if you have the right personality for the course. My boring, spiritless personality was the opposite of what interviewers look for which is an empathetic, charismatic, and caring personality. I began prepping myself for the future interview with generic questions they ask, and on filming myself, I realised I didn’t have a chance if thats how I acted in the real interview. I was boring even to myself, speaking like a soulless robot.
With not enough time for a full on personality transplant, I looked upon my trusty wingman - alcohol. Somehow, in the interview I was able to express myself without any social awkwardness and luckily I wasn’t impaired enough to where I forgot the interview responses that I had rehearsed when I was sober before. And it worked. I got into the course I wanted and was now set for a future of green and fulfilment.
Upon starting the course, I gained another reality check and realised how out of place I was. Everyone in my cohort seemed to have had a vibrant and interesting character to them whereas whenever I talked, I felt dull and boring. One class was a health communication skills class, and I was bottom of the barrel when it was my turn to talk. I managed to make friends, but they were the life of the party, while I was the aspie.
My cohort was not that great looking on average, with 90% being nerdy skinny ethnics. I was atleast around the top 10 best looking people out of the 100 people in my year. Yet, the average and below average Joes didn’t have a problem scoring a girlfriend from my course within weeks of us starting the year. My friend from the course who’s very average looking got a girlfriend from our cohort, broke up, then not even a week later got a new girlfriend from the same cohort. It seemed like magic to me at the time. But I started puzzling things together, and realised that same friend had charisma for days.
I began to put most my focus on my personality and decided to go all in on constant socialisation. This meant spending as little time as I could doing things other than socialisation. I would wake up, get my looksmax routine including gym out the way, finish class, and hit the books. The rest of the 8 or so hours of the day, I turned into pure socialisation. The friend group I spent my time with were very outgoing, so we were always talking or doing something together after class until night. Even at night, I forced myself to facetime my friends as opposed to what I used to do which was to mindlessly scroll and watch random youtube videos.
My days went from this:
Wake up → Looksmax routine → Browse looksmax → Sleep
To this:
Wake up → Looksmax routine → Go to class/study → Socialise → Sleep
In less than a week, I noticed myself changing the way I speak, and I started to like my own personality more and more as the days went on. My short, snoozefest replies started becoming longer and more lively. After a month of this, my newfound social confidence was amazing as you could probably expect with endless hours of chit-chat every day. I felt as though I could make anyone I talked to feel good, and this extended to girls too. I could chat to any girl and could actually enjoy the conversation without feeling even the slightest bit awkward. Fast forward a few months and I found a girlfriend who I’ve been happily together with for the past 2 years. It’s like hanging out with people everyday unlocked the DLC edition of life for me. I’d never been so content in my life.
Still, I believe looks theory is legit. However, I barely see any threads encouraging more socialisation when a good personality is a huge halo, and a bad one is a huge failo.
I also don’t believe in one night stands. While it might be fun in the short term, its unfulfilling in the long term. At best you’ll get to have sex with a 10 with low morals, a few days a year. It also encourages you to be anti-social. You only have to talk to the girl when you want sex. Also, at some point you’ll lose your looks. What will make you happy when you’re 40? 50? 60?
I feel like the average normie is far more charismatic than someone who rots here all day like I used to. Because they intuitively socialise constantly. The only difference is that normies do not care or know about the niche looksmax advice that you have. Even so, alot of normies go to the gym, eat well, and have good haircuts.
So you’re automatically setting your potential back if you aren’t also becoming as sociable as you can whilst looksmaxxing. Looksmaxxing doesn’t take that long out of your day anyway. Give me one reason why you shouldn’t be socialising the rest of the day if you want people to like you more.
A couple socialisation recommendations:
TLDR: Have a short looksmax routine, complete any work/studies, then spend the rest of your day and night purely socialising.
First off, I still swear by looks theory, no change there. How good you look acts as a multiplier to how positively people react to your actions. However, my reasons for looksmaxxing have changed, and it has increased my quality of life drastically. To explain this, I’ll tell you my story, and it’s long so I don’t blame you if you don’t read.
Before PSL, I was a socially anxious, unconfident wreck who thought playing video games was life’s ultimate joy. I was also below average in looks. In my first couple dates around this time, I had no success. I’d run out of words, and my conversations were extremely dry. Basically the whole date, I’d feel awkward. Not just with the girls, but with my small circle too. I was generally a pretty boring and quiet person to be around.
At this time, I first discovered PSL and got hooked. I did everything I could within my budget to improve my looks which included mainly; skin, hair, facial leanness, muscles, among other niche things like mewing, ice hooding, eyelid pulling, chewing, ect. I swapped gaming with spending countless hours reading threads, most of which being shitposts just so I could kill time. Looksmax was on my mind the whole day as a result, and I became ultra-aware of how I looked all the time. Countless selfies, daily, were taken. I’d take extreme measures such as dry fasting just to get those coveted hollow cheeks for a few days. And guess what? People started noticing.
Suddenly, both guys and girls I already knew well at school started complimenting my clothes and hair out of the blue. Being so obsessed with how I looked, this boosted my confidence sky-high. I felt ready to try going on dates again. What I noticed was that the same things I said to girls on dates before, had a slightly better reception than before. For example, jokes I made would make them laugh a little harder than before. However, the social anxiety stuck, and that awkward feeling never went away. My voice had no spirit, and I was still boring to talk to in general. At that time, I was so obsessed with looks that my personality wasn’t even in the question as to why I couldn’t get a girlfriend.
Frustrated, I would dry fast even longer, use shoe lifts, and generally take more extreme measures to look slightly better. On the next date, I pre-drank alcohol until I couldn’t feel my face, just so I wouldn’t feel awkward. And it worked like a charm. I was able to talk endlessly and the girl enjoyed my company so much to the point where I was able to land my first kiss. At the time, I thought I’d cracked the code.
On the next date with the same girl, I embraced the alcohol again for another good time. But for whatever reason, the magic fizzled out and I couldn’t get rid of my social awkwardness the same way I did the first time. I was just a plain, unfiltered version of my normal boring self. I couldn’t produce the same fun vibe I did in the last date, and I wasn’t able to make her feel good. Despite looking the exact same, the girl I thought I knew treated me like a distant relative at a family reunion. From having fun the whole date previously, to her looking uninterested the whole time. This shattered my confidence.
It hit me that my personality had a much more significant role in attraction than what I concluded from reading PSL threads. I also began getting sick of rotting my whole day shitposting on PSL. Like it wasn’t even that fun, I just wanted to pass the time the exact same way as I did with gaming. Fed up and feeling like a lost cause, I ditched PSL but kept the valuable looksmaxing advice in the back of my mind.
I gave up on dating all together and started hitting the books to become a doctor/dentist as I liked the idea of the money and job fulfilment that field has. However, where I live you must take an in-person interview to assess if you have the right personality for the course. My boring, spiritless personality was the opposite of what interviewers look for which is an empathetic, charismatic, and caring personality. I began prepping myself for the future interview with generic questions they ask, and on filming myself, I realised I didn’t have a chance if thats how I acted in the real interview. I was boring even to myself, speaking like a soulless robot.
With not enough time for a full on personality transplant, I looked upon my trusty wingman - alcohol. Somehow, in the interview I was able to express myself without any social awkwardness and luckily I wasn’t impaired enough to where I forgot the interview responses that I had rehearsed when I was sober before. And it worked. I got into the course I wanted and was now set for a future of green and fulfilment.
Upon starting the course, I gained another reality check and realised how out of place I was. Everyone in my cohort seemed to have had a vibrant and interesting character to them whereas whenever I talked, I felt dull and boring. One class was a health communication skills class, and I was bottom of the barrel when it was my turn to talk. I managed to make friends, but they were the life of the party, while I was the aspie.
My cohort was not that great looking on average, with 90% being nerdy skinny ethnics. I was atleast around the top 10 best looking people out of the 100 people in my year. Yet, the average and below average Joes didn’t have a problem scoring a girlfriend from my course within weeks of us starting the year. My friend from the course who’s very average looking got a girlfriend from our cohort, broke up, then not even a week later got a new girlfriend from the same cohort. It seemed like magic to me at the time. But I started puzzling things together, and realised that same friend had charisma for days.
I began to put most my focus on my personality and decided to go all in on constant socialisation. This meant spending as little time as I could doing things other than socialisation. I would wake up, get my looksmax routine including gym out the way, finish class, and hit the books. The rest of the 8 or so hours of the day, I turned into pure socialisation. The friend group I spent my time with were very outgoing, so we were always talking or doing something together after class until night. Even at night, I forced myself to facetime my friends as opposed to what I used to do which was to mindlessly scroll and watch random youtube videos.
My days went from this:
Wake up → Looksmax routine → Browse looksmax → Sleep
To this:
Wake up → Looksmax routine → Go to class/study → Socialise → Sleep
In less than a week, I noticed myself changing the way I speak, and I started to like my own personality more and more as the days went on. My short, snoozefest replies started becoming longer and more lively. After a month of this, my newfound social confidence was amazing as you could probably expect with endless hours of chit-chat every day. I felt as though I could make anyone I talked to feel good, and this extended to girls too. I could chat to any girl and could actually enjoy the conversation without feeling even the slightest bit awkward. Fast forward a few months and I found a girlfriend who I’ve been happily together with for the past 2 years. It’s like hanging out with people everyday unlocked the DLC edition of life for me. I’d never been so content in my life.
Still, I believe looks theory is legit. However, I barely see any threads encouraging more socialisation when a good personality is a huge halo, and a bad one is a huge failo.
I also don’t believe in one night stands. While it might be fun in the short term, its unfulfilling in the long term. At best you’ll get to have sex with a 10 with low morals, a few days a year. It also encourages you to be anti-social. You only have to talk to the girl when you want sex. Also, at some point you’ll lose your looks. What will make you happy when you’re 40? 50? 60?
I feel like the average normie is far more charismatic than someone who rots here all day like I used to. Because they intuitively socialise constantly. The only difference is that normies do not care or know about the niche looksmax advice that you have. Even so, alot of normies go to the gym, eat well, and have good haircuts.
So you’re automatically setting your potential back if you aren’t also becoming as sociable as you can whilst looksmaxxing. Looksmaxxing doesn’t take that long out of your day anyway. Give me one reason why you shouldn’t be socialising the rest of the day if you want people to like you more.
A couple socialisation recommendations:
- Opt for face to face conversations as your main form of socialisation. Avoid places like clubbing, playing games, ect as you’re technically with people, but you’re not actually improving your social skills.
- You don’t need to read any books, listen to any advice, or any of that from online. Trust me, in hours upon hours of consistent conversations, you’ll naturally pick up on what facial expressions, tone of voice, word choice, ect that make people feel the best around you.
- Spend your time with other charismatic people. If you spend your time with other people with poor social skills, you won’t improve.
TLDR: Have a short looksmax routine, complete any work/studies, then spend the rest of your day and night purely socialising.
