Zyros
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Happened to me already a fuck lot of times in which I got girls attention, and it started specially after losing weight. That I look like a vampire (yes this I already talked about in this forum). It happened to me while wearing not dark clothes and tied up hair too, so not the style (but I guess kinda helps further). Lots and lots of people joked about me veng some vampire, including people who seen me the first time, and some firends told me I look the part because of my features with my very white skin (I am the palest of all my friends). The fact that I look very young at 31 years old helps the stereotype further. It would annoy me more if not for the vampire joke actually getting me girls many times, like its easier to break ice or approach with that joke. They specially get even more joking about it when they know my real age, as I formerly said. I also think the stereotype is a bit attractive, since I, for example had some tipsy girl tell me "god I wish you were an actually real vampire".
Sounds good as an easy ice breaker and a way to fill up convos with jokes specially with alcohol involved, and a way to close hook ups more easily but...I fear becoming a joke in a bad way to the rest of people if I capitalize on this too much, sacrificing being taken seriously for (sometimes niche) hookups. Its not like I dress like some goth or something, I actually dress half very casual half fashionly, for example wearing tight grey jeans witha sweater and a fur hoodie jacket, pretty normie outfit, nothing out of the ordinary, yet people still label me as what this post is about. So I have 2 paths: embrace the meme and use more black in clothes, never tie hair up and go full on vampire stereotype, or counter it, wearing more white clothes, never wearing anything "rocker" like, tyng my hair up every day which is not a bad masseter day, switching t_shirts for button shirts, and generally dressing as mainstream as possible to counter inherent face and skin features. But as I am not chad, this second route might hurt my success with girls, as I would lose that niche, but it would make sure I don't cross the line between being harmlessly joked about, and becoming an actual meme.
Don't want to become the not-to-taken-seriously meme, I had enough of that in my former life. But also, as a former incel Im definitely starved for female attention and validation/feeling wanted and am definitely playing "catch up" these years by taking advantage of slow aging. Don't know when age will hit me so I fear choosing the wrong decision and regretting it later, like choosing to embrace it and become a forever local meme, or choosing to counter it and lose female attention only to regret it if I suddenly age bad.
Sounds good as an easy ice breaker and a way to fill up convos with jokes specially with alcohol involved, and a way to close hook ups more easily but...I fear becoming a joke in a bad way to the rest of people if I capitalize on this too much, sacrificing being taken seriously for (sometimes niche) hookups. Its not like I dress like some goth or something, I actually dress half very casual half fashionly, for example wearing tight grey jeans witha sweater and a fur hoodie jacket, pretty normie outfit, nothing out of the ordinary, yet people still label me as what this post is about. So I have 2 paths: embrace the meme and use more black in clothes, never tie hair up and go full on vampire stereotype, or counter it, wearing more white clothes, never wearing anything "rocker" like, tyng my hair up every day which is not a bad masseter day, switching t_shirts for button shirts, and generally dressing as mainstream as possible to counter inherent face and skin features. But as I am not chad, this second route might hurt my success with girls, as I would lose that niche, but it would make sure I don't cross the line between being harmlessly joked about, and becoming an actual meme.
Don't want to become the not-to-taken-seriously meme, I had enough of that in my former life. But also, as a former incel Im definitely starved for female attention and validation/feeling wanted and am definitely playing "catch up" these years by taking advantage of slow aging. Don't know when age will hit me so I fear choosing the wrong decision and regretting it later, like choosing to embrace it and become a forever local meme, or choosing to counter it and lose female attention only to regret it if I suddenly age bad.
